tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342497992024-03-19T16:57:18.950+13:00AmeriNZ BlogA gay American-born New Zealander talks about life, his two countries, and a whole lot more.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.comBlogger5746125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-44852173609811234722024-03-18T14:40:00.001+13:002024-03-18T15:54:04.444+13:00Seeing the road aheadAmong the many busy days I’ve had lately was Wednesday of last week. That day I ran several errands, took care of some important business, and as a result of that, I saw one possible aspect of our future when the story concluded today. I really have been busy.<br />
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On Wednesday last week, I went to an optometrist mainly for a driver license renewal vision test, but also for an eye health check. I last saw an optometrist <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2014/03/seeing-to-things.html" target="_blank">10 years ago</a></b>—and that was also because I needed to renew my driver licence. Back then, the issue was that my expiring licence said I needed vision correction to drive, something I no longer needed after I got LASIK eye surgery back in 2008 (and I talked about the procedure <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2008/05/two-weeks-later.html" target="_blank">a few days after it was over</a></b>).<br />
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I wanted an eye check-up, but I also wanted to order some prescription reading glasses, too, because cheap ones from a supermarket or chemist have the same strength in both eyes, and mine aren’t the same as each other. However, my specific motivation was definitely the driver licence, because I don’t like those vision test machines at the renewal place. This way, I could take care of two things at once.<br />
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The place I was going was on the other side of the city from me, and my appointment was at 9:30, so I figured I better leave the house extra early due to morning traffic, which, it turned out, was going the other direction, so I got there plenty early—and in retrospect, I probably should’ve realised that. In any event, whenever I have an appointment in the morning I have an absolutely awful night’s sleep, so I began the day quite tired and sleepy.<br />
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It turned out that the shopping centre where the optometrist is located also has a place where I could renew my driver licence, something that private organisations are contracted to do on behalf of the government. In Hamilton, my choices were <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/02/it-was-about-change-not-coincidence.html" target="_blank">the same place I got my car’s Warrant of Fitness last month</a></b> (NOT an appealing option), or the place I actually went to. There’s also a supermarket there and a petrol station that was offering 20 cents per litre discount if I used my Everyday Rewards loyalty scheme card, so I planned a morning of errands while I was there.<br />
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I ended up renewing my licence in mere minutes: It was so fast, in fact, that I said out loud, kind of accidentally, kind of not, “this is soooooo much better than going to VTNZ!” The agents, two of whom weren’t serving customers at the time, laughed and thanked me, one adding, “we hear that a lot”.<br />
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My new licence will be for ten years again (we used to have lifetime licences that were paper and didn’t have photos). However, this is my last 10-year license: Next time (assuming…), I’ll be 75 and the licence will be for five years. Then, at 80 (big assumptions…), it’ll be for only two years at a time and I’ll need a medical certificate from my doctor for each renewal (to verify I don’t have physical limitations that would prevent me from driving safely).<br />
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A lot can happen over fifteen years. Fifteen years ago, Nigel and I had our Civil Union ceremony and party, so 15 years from now (assuming…) will also be at least as different from now as now is from 2009.<br />
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I’d arranged to meet up for lunch with one of my sisters-in-law, and my brother-in-law joined us, too, at new place a short drive from the shopping centre (after I bought my discounted petrol, of course). After lunch, I went to the nearby Woolworths (more Everyday Rewards points!), and then home to a very happy Leo.<br />
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That brings this story right up to today: My new driver licence arrived in the post this morning, the first day that was possible since I only renewed it last Wednesday, and because we only get mail on M-W-F where I live. I think that’s pretty good service! My signature on the new licence looks very little like my actual one—I found it difficult to use the stylus on the well-used tablet sort of thing (plus I sign my name <i>maybe</i> once a year, if that). Ironically (to me), my signature actually looks like what it what might when my license expires in 2034, on my 75th birthday. Also, about 2034 and being 75: <i>WTF?!!</i> Or, more accurately, <i><u>HOW</u></i> TF is that even possible?! When I saw the date it expires, I thought to myself, “…assuming I haven’t already”, and then followed my sardonic joke with, “I hope that’s not when I expire”. Both are valid, actually.<br />
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When I looked at my new licence, I noticed it has a subtitle my old one didn’t: “Driver Identity Information”, and I instantly thought of all the weird conspiracies the cookers will say that one line is about. I recently found out the cookers have come up with all sorts of elaborate conspiracy theories about the new Everyday Rewards loyalty scheme cards (<i>seriously!</i>), so there’s pretty much nothing they won’t create paranoid and delusional stories about. I wonder if we’ll still be dealing with that sort of nonsense in 2034.<br />
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My busy Wednesday last week was a day I got a lot of stuff done. When the story concluded today, I saw one possible aspect of our collective future. Maybe that means that I just need to keep really busy, for a lot of reasons.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-12004712088737708352024-03-17T13:09:00.001+13:002024-03-17T14:50:51.133+13:00Busy not being busyI’ve been quite busy lately, doing the sorts of things I’d normally mention on this blog and/or on the podcast—yet I’ve done very little of either (sometimes, I didn’t even mention those things on my personal Facebook). That silence is partly because I really have been busy lately, of course, but some of it was because I wasn’t feeling well for awhile, and a sizeable chunk—perhaps the biggest reason—is that I just didn’t feel like blogging or podcasting—not for the first or the last time.<br />
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Still, there’s a lot stuff I’ve done recently that I still want to talk about, and I hope to get through the backlog over the coming week or so. That’ll probably mean several days with multiple posts, or (maybe more likely) simply fewer days skipped entirely, but either way, with cooler weather and so many projects approaching, I want to clear out the metaphorical mental filing cabinet.<br />
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I can’t promise —well, anything, really, but hope is a powerful thing. If this doesn’t come to be, then maybe it’s not meant to be; I honestly don’t know what’ll happen. Right now, though, I have a post for later today to finish, after I work on a repeatedly begun and abandoned household project. I guess it’s really true: <b><a href="https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/plus%20%C3%A7a%20change,%20plus%20c'est%20la%20m%C3%AAme%20chose" target="_blank"><i>Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose.</i></a></b>Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-43705447293590676652024-03-06T23:57:00.001+13:002024-03-07T01:20:16.260+13:00A busy day was had<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgt5K3-CuGCkaqOuXoOtLYfEpGRO4nr-MO6lUR0wFBZdIAUN1zb9JElV5Ks5qH6Zj_hUIuZE3pWJSbkJqQ8db3lwvMbf4PHzTDUtZhYoeHJ0lSKrg9wF-v2DHGElaLQQCqB6JC5hEZPtGqDWCmoXsyb0d4CsN-7NF4M_pH7byDjKHz7meMGk69y/s640/FB-caricature-thing-2024-03-06.png" style="display: block; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: left;"><img border="0" data-original-height="639" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgt5K3-CuGCkaqOuXoOtLYfEpGRO4nr-MO6lUR0wFBZdIAUN1zb9JElV5Ks5qH6Zj_hUIuZE3pWJSbkJqQ8db3lwvMbf4PHzTDUtZhYoeHJ0lSKrg9wF-v2DHGElaLQQCqB6JC5hEZPtGqDWCmoXsyb0d4CsN-7NF4M_pH7byDjKHz7meMGk69y/w640-h638/FB-caricature-thing-2024-03-06.png" width="550" /></a></div>The graphic above tells a joking tale about my main accomplishment today, though there was a bit more too it. In fact, I was busy enough that I didn’t have enough time to do the post I’d planned for today. Not for the first—or last—time.<br />
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The graphic is one of those caricature things that Facebook promotes, and I have no idea why they do. The avatar is seldom all that realistic, but the main issue for me is that they seem unnecessarily silly. On the other hand, as someone who has made being unnecessarily silly part of his brand, it kinda fits.<br />
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What it refers to is, of course, the fact that I—<i>once again</i>—cleared the convolvulus from the raingarden out front. Ordinarily, I do this right before I mow so the mower can reduce it mulch, but this time there was too much. It has been “some time” since my last major cleanout, with only a littler minor culling this summer.<br />
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We’ve had a lot of rain lately, so weeds in general have had a wonderful time, and for my lawn that meant the weeds had yet again sent up flower stalks (with no flowers yet), but it was enough to make it look untidy.<br />
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After cleaning out the raingarden, I used the line trimmer around the edges out front until that ran out, then I grabbed the mower and mowed out front. That was it for today.<br />
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My plan is that tomorrow I’ll do the back, after refilling the filament in the line trimmer. Splitting the task in two was the only logical thing, really—and not just because I wasn’t in the mood to wrangle the line trimmer. The fact is, I wasn’t into any of it, and it was sheer force of will and bloody-minded determination that got me through the front—and then it promptly gave out.<br />
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I knew two things. First, all the rain we’ve had lately will make the grass (weeds) grow well, and also that the front would soon look untidy. No one but me and Leo sees the back, so if for some reason I don’t get it done tomorrow, oh well, I guess (though I probably will get it done).<br />
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The other motivation is that the monthly goal on my Apple watch this month is to close my Exercise Ring four times, and if I split the mowing over two days, I’d get the final two rings I needed for the month. Just working the system.<br />
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And that was my day. This evening was just watching TV, being too tired to do anything else. That, too is not for the first—or last—time. But I did mange to solve a project-related problem, so there’s that.<br />
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Despite everything, a busy day was had.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-24762035362256828012024-03-05T20:00:00.002+13:002024-03-06T01:11:29.850+13:00Better morning<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJiXU4oMBLNKXUR10fKoj1kd8YOwYB8fB88bcj6rjKU7ts03W26W6TqRdwaJaA2yXmrU7MUUQhuwo3oPvfL4RqQVc70C1Row-SvF-Ti9BtJZcHAdSwNn6PJ86k8jfdpRBF1XehXrp2muKqocX3_rL_lmeQWkeX5kSznNtHBbxpDAyTUWZShCEY/s640/Leo-me-AM-2024-03-05.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJiXU4oMBLNKXUR10fKoj1kd8YOwYB8fB88bcj6rjKU7ts03W26W6TqRdwaJaA2yXmrU7MUUQhuwo3oPvfL4RqQVc70C1Row-SvF-Ti9BtJZcHAdSwNn6PJ86k8jfdpRBF1XehXrp2muKqocX3_rL_lmeQWkeX5kSznNtHBbxpDAyTUWZShCEY/w640-h640/Leo-me-AM-2024-03-05.png" width="550" /></a></div>The photo above is what I woke up to this morning, and it’s kind of nice waking up and thinking, “Awwwwwww…” first thing. However, it was hard to grab my phone, get it ready to take a photo, and then take it, all using only one hand—while also not disturbing Leo. Or maybe he was just pretending to be asleep because he knows I’m always wanting to take photos of him. Either way, he’s a good boy.<br />
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We’d both slept in, as we have the past few mornings, and while Leo is always happy to do that, for me it was that it was raining heavily recent mornings, and I could hear it on the roof over us. It was kind of soothing, since it wasn’t torrential, and there wasn’t any thunder. But once Leo realised I was awake, he decided it was time to for us to get up.<br />
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After my first coffee, I decided to make myself a hot breakfast (photo below): Scrambled eggs on toast with thin slices of edam cheese, and garnished with freshly ground salt and pepper, a bit of dill, and some dried parsley from my garden. On the side I had a couple small tomatoes I bought at the supermarket last week.<br />
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I recently started sharing food photos again, and the ones I take, even if I never share them, usually have some sort of story behind them. The thing is, in addition to realising that I’d stopped trying new recipes or food experiments, I also realised that I seldom make a cooked breakfast for myself—it’s usually toast or maybe cereal. There’s no reason for that, but I realised it’s something I’d like to do more of, especially because I often have more of a brunch and then dinner later on, but no specific lunch. A little more effort for my first meal of the day, then, can be useful, not just nice to have.<br />
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I didn’t share the photo of my breakfast anywhere else, and if my culinary adventures hadn’t all but disappeared, I probably wouldn’t have shared this one, either. But it, along with the photo of Leo up top (which I did share on social media), go to show that I can have an awesome start to an otherwise ordinary day. And having an awesome morning is always something worth sharing.<br />
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Photos, though, really are optional.<br />
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How much the stuff I produce for this blog is read has never been my metric for determining “success”—in fact, I almost never even think about checking the stats. Sure, I want people to read what I publish, but I’m quite happy even if only one other person (aside from me…) reads a post, and I’m even happier if they find something useful in it.<br />
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My personal metric of “success” has always been raw output: How many posts did I publish in a month or year? I haven’t achieved my old goal of an annual average of one post per day for several years, and, on the whole, I’m fine with that. However, there have been numerous things I don’t post about, though I wanted to, and that’s where a little planning can help.<br />
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The first thing I did was to make a simple list by month of various posts I want to be sure to do, and some that would be nice to do. For example, I have my <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/search/label/Weekend%20Diversion%20-%201984" target="_blank">“Weekend Diversion – 1984”</a></b> series, each of which has a set date for publication. I also listed topics I’d like to remember along with things I (maybe?) couldn’t possibly forget. At the moment, that list has only 29 posts on it—it’s merely about being able to plan for posts that have specific publication dates. In this way, I can pre-write posts (like for the “Weekend Diversion” series) well in advance, not the least because most of those posts are at least based on historic information.<br />
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I’ve never been particularly good about planning posts in advance, certainly nothing like <b><a href="https://www.rogerogreen.com/" target="_blank">Roger Green</a></b> does, but it would be useful, and probably much easier on me, if I took care of planned posts in advance (obviously, I can still make changes right up to the date of publication—after all, I sometimes make changes a long time <i>after</i> publication).<br />
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I started thinking about this because as I was writing my post about <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/02/my-dad-would-be-108.html" target="_blank">my father’s birthday</a></b>, I realised how I’d almost always forgotten to write such a post, and I knew there had been others over the years I’d also forgotten.<br />
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Last year, I tried to devise an organisation system for my blog and podcast, but nothing I came up with made any sense for me, how my brain works, and for my work style. A simple list may be <i>too</i> simple, but it should do the basic thing I want: Keep me on track so I get date-specific posts written and published on time.<br />
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This, of course, does absolutely nothing for the vast majority of posts I work on during a year—written and published, or not. Those are still in a state of chaos, but maybe that’s the compromise? Tracking and planning for posts with specific publication dates will, at the very least, free-up some head-space for other posts, and aslo preserve the spontaneity that I've always enjoyed.<br />
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None of this means I’ll get anywhere near my goal of old, and I’m still okay with that. I know that having something to keep me on track with posts for specific publication dates will also take some stress of me, too, since I don’t have to try to remember such things. In fact, that same motivation was what led me to design my personal organisation system, too (and that system turns one year old later this week).<br />
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No one ever plans to “fail”, however they measure that, but plenty of people don’t plan to help themselves “succeed”, however they measure <i>that</i>. Over the past year, I’ve learned so much about what works for me, what helps me to “succeed”, as I define that, and I definitely feel better for having put a bit of energy into frameworks to help me plan so I don’t flail. I don’t “succeed” at everything by anyone’s measure, but most of the time I succeed by my definition, and that’s enough.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-59899997499558026892024-03-03T17:23:00.001+13:002024-03-04T02:40:18.415+13:00Wish and stomach fulfilment <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgoqO5GTsYSGSA2sPRt_6JsesKYVOM-G2Qs5rPjJSbVjX1rICAw3Zly9Q4iD7NjWYzoqT1hGkzWrzTOX2EoG1yC98avCqg9jnbY7FuXQp1qOX9Of6ylIz3_KrncCaE9F-sjajN2V-YT4Sjg8fBllbFqGcQM9z7lwdRmqmSK9Lcl3jR4FlSujOSc/s640/1-Vegetarian-bolognese-2024-03-02.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgoqO5GTsYSGSA2sPRt_6JsesKYVOM-G2Qs5rPjJSbVjX1rICAw3Zly9Q4iD7NjWYzoqT1hGkzWrzTOX2EoG1yC98avCqg9jnbY7FuXQp1qOX9Of6ylIz3_KrncCaE9F-sjajN2V-YT4Sjg8fBllbFqGcQM9z7lwdRmqmSK9Lcl3jR4FlSujOSc/s320/1-Vegetarian-bolognese-2024-03-02.png" width="320" /></a></div>There are times when it’s useful to be getting fixated on something. In fact, last night it helped me get back into something I’ve been wanting to do for awhile, and I was so very glad that I did. <i>Very</i> glad.<br />
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Last night I decided I wanted to make the vegetarian pasta with puttanesca sauce, something I talked about when I first made it <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2019/05/another-meat-free-meal.html" target="_blank">back in May of 2019</a></b>. I’ve made variations of it every since, sometimes using cannellini beans instead of lentils, often with a bit of grated carrot, and maybe other bits and pieces as the mood struck me. Then, I just stopped making it—not on purpose, I just stopped.<br />
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The problem I have with recipes is that if I don’t make something in awhile, I forget how to make it, and I need to consult the recipe. So last night I went through my recipe ring binder, and found two different recipes. And in so doing, I realised how I’d combined the two different recipes.<br />
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The recipe I made in 2019 was from a circular from one of NZ’s two supermarket companies, but, <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2018/07/show-me-no-beef.html" target="_blank">in July of 2018</a></b>, I didn’t have a recipe for a vegetarian bolognese. Somewhere along the line, I combined the two in my mind, which underdstandbly confused me when I was looking through my recipes.<br />
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Still I saw that I’d downloaded the recipe for the vegetarian bolognese from <b><a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/puy_lentil_bolognaise_40407" target="_blank">the BBC’s “Food” part of their site</a></b> (I fist saw it on a BBC programme). Since I had to follow a recipe, anyway, I decided to try the BBC version. It was <i>outstanding</i> (photo up top), and, in fact, it was so much better than my original effort (either one or later combined versions). I even got to use an onion I grew (which is actually a topic in itself). I’ll definitely make it again.<br />
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This is <i>exactly</i> the sort of thing I meant when <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/03/the-first-and-last.html" target="_blank">I shared a photo of a meal I’d improvised</a></b>, adding that:<br />
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I realised that I seldom share meal photos (aka “food porn”) any more, and that’s because I seldom try new things or new recipes. There’s absolutely no reason for that—I just haven’t.<br />
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The last photo I took in February was a meal, yes, but also something I’d like to start doing more of again: Experimenting with new recipes, and/or new ways of cooking things—like I used to do.<br />
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Last night’s meal was exactly what I was talking about, which is why I did it despite not being into it that night—well, not at first. The more I worked on it, the more I remembered how fun it is to do that.<br />
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I’m pretty good at making poached eggs now, but I have to do them one at a time because I now use the “create a whirlpool in the pot of boiling water” method. I used to cook two in a pan of water with a little white vinegar which, the Internet told me, helps keep the whites together, but, yeah, not so much. The whirlpool method works much better, but unless I have two pots on the cooktop at once, I can only make one poached egg at a time. This is probably just a learning experience; after all, even making fried eggs took some experimentation, and now when I (rarely) make them, they’re perfect (and I do two at a time).<br />
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There’s one more thing about yesterday’s breakfast: I’d put a little chilli powder in the smashed avocado, mainly because at the time I thought I was going to make nachos with the leftover mix. There was a time I’d <i>never</i> have done that. I guess all this cooking experimentation is making me more adventurous, too.<br />
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I often get fixated on something, and in this case me being determined to experiment with cooking and recipes helped me get back into something I hadn’t done for awhile. I was so very glad that I did.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-5127044326681166532024-03-01T21:40:00.005+13:002024-03-03T17:09:35.625+13:00The first and the last<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0VhKmUuwrPexKdexhc0xaFOt-sW6fKWcW7cG06lfz5LrQCxya5tPldKv0kP20QnBvOTgiDNKDt7oNVSuhX5Fb07E7wzWVFbrxRYszz_6d9L5WmBe5P8PNuwbMHr_FjTB449dLMjzHeSpxwzWZ6grfVCz3AGEFvca-2RuBqy3H4z3ofiO9fVQ5/s640/Moonlight-2024-03-01.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0VhKmUuwrPexKdexhc0xaFOt-sW6fKWcW7cG06lfz5LrQCxya5tPldKv0kP20QnBvOTgiDNKDt7oNVSuhX5Fb07E7wzWVFbrxRYszz_6d9L5WmBe5P8PNuwbMHr_FjTB449dLMjzHeSpxwzWZ6grfVCz3AGEFvca-2RuBqy3H4z3ofiO9fVQ5/w640-h640/Moonlight-2024-03-01.png" width="550" /></a></div>I take a lot of photos. I share some on social media and/or on this blog, but most of my photos are never seen by anybody else. Today, however, is a story of a beginning and an ending, in reverse order.<br />
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The photo up top is one I shared to social media last night. I said:<br />
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Leo asked me to let him outside, and I followed him out and looked up. I saw the moon in the clouds, all reflected by my solar panels. It’s pretty. It’s also now after midnight, and so, Match 1, and that makes this is my first photo of an Autumn moon. Yay.<br />
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March first is, of course, the first day of Autumn in this part of the world, and just like our brethren and sistren in the Northern Hemisphere, some of us may pause to reflect on seasonal change. Or, not. As it happens, the photo up top just happened to be my first of March, and so, a new season.<br />
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The photo at the bottom of this post was the last photo I took in February, and, as is so often the case, there’s a story there. That story was actually completed on February 29.<br />
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Recently, I was looking at my Facebook “Memories”, as well as my photos on my devices, and I realised that I seldom share meal photos (aka “food porn”) any more, and that’s because I seldom try new things or new recipes. There’s absolutely no reason for that—I just haven’t. Until this week.<br />
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I had a bottle of honey mustard salad dressing in my fridge, and I realised I’d never get to it before it expired. I also realised it’d make a good base for a chicken marinade, so last week I bought some skin-on chicken thighs, and Thursday was the day!<br />
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I mixed the salad dressing, some garlic powder, some low-salt soya sauce, a bit of sugar (it was too tart), and a bit of oil to make a marinade. In then end, though, I just used it as a kind of sauce.<br />
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The result, in the photo below, was really nice, a bit like a teriyaki chicken. I served it with mashed potato and some peas and corn (from frozen). It was really nice, however, the thigh portions had squillions of tiny bones, which wasn’t ideal. I think the other supermarket chain has ones with fewer bones. Still, I had the leftovers for dinner on Thursday night.<br />
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The last photo I took in February was a meal, yes, but also something I’d like to start doing more of again: Experimenting with new recipes, and/or new ways of cooking things—like I used to do. The photo up top is also something I’ve shared a lot of in the past. Say whatever negative thing you want about Kirikiriroa-Hamilton, and I certainly have, but some of the most amazing skies I’ve seen anywhere have been here. I don’t know why that is—maybe it has something to do with the distance from the sea?—but marvelling at the pretty skies is something I never tire of.<br />
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Sometimes, the most important thing is to focus on what’s good, what’s positive, and what's right in front of us. <u><i>SO</i></u> much in the world today is utter shit, maybe we’d all be better off if we focus more on what’s good, like a pretty sky or a good meal we made ourselves. Whatever. Maybe if we do, we can all help make the world a little less awful.<br />
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When I shared the photos on Instagram/Facebook, I said, “In the queue to get the Warrant of Fitness for my car. It’s only been s bit more then an hour so far…”. When I was finally done, I added a comment: “It was an hour twenty, all up. Next year, I may go somewhere else…” That was that, as far as I was concerned, until I saw my Facebook “Memories” the next day.<br />
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It turns out that last year I got my WoF on Monday, February 28—the day it expired. That day, however, was also a Monday. I said in the caption:<br />
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Well, ain’t that a coincidence! I just went there yesterday! No, it’s not a coincidence at all: My car’s Warrant of Fitness expires every February 27. BUT, last year I went on the very last day, and this year I went a day before the last day—progress! 🤣<br />
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So… progress. Yeah, that’s it. I then went on to explain why the experience last year had been so frustrating, make jokes about jokes I made in a comment I made on last year’s Facebook post. The comments ended up being part of a <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2023/02/the-other-real-life.html" target="_blank">a blog post</a></b> (or maybe vice versa—I don’t remember). At any rate, I began my yesterday’s Facebook post by saying that “Last year was so slow partly because they were building two new inspection bays for cars only, and the two that were there last year are now primarily for trucks of varying sizes, and heavy vehicles.” That was certainly true, but only part of the story: It was still slow this year. Last year, I joked about their computer systems:<br />
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…their computer system was, quite possibly, running Windows ME and connected to the Internet by 3G cell service.<br />
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This year, I had another jab at their “still absurdly slow computer systems”, adding: “I was, of course, joking last year when I said their computers were running Windows ME. Obviously it’s Windows 95. And probably using a 1995 dial-up modem.”<br />
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There were several changes this year. First, there were few trucks waiting when I got there, and when they were all done, the inspectors started processing cars, too, and things sped up “dramatically”, if that word can be used to describe such a slow process.<br />
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The two new inspection bays were quite different, too. All the inspection facilities of that company that I’ve ever gone to had pits below the inspection bay that inspectors would use to go under the car to inspect things like the car’s chassis (for rust or other damage), brakes, etc. The two new car inspection lanes use hydraulic car lifts to raise the car two metres in the air—which kind of seems like a bigger liability to me, but I suppose they know what they’re doing. The truck lanes still have pits.<br />
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In my post on Monday, I talked about maybe making other arrangements next year. There are actually <i>lots</i> of companies authorised to do WoF inspections, but I never wanted to use a place that also does repairs because, cynical me noted, they had a financial incentive to find something “wrong”. In fact, VTNZ (the chain I’ve been going to for many years) used to run TV ads implying that very thing.<br />
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I have a year to explore options for places that book appointments, rather than going through these annual wait-a-thons. That’ll give be time to check reviews, too, so I can quiet the cynical demon trying to whisper sweet paranoid nothings in my ear.<br />
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This was just one of millions of other bureaucratic machines to wrangle over the next few weeks, but at least one more is now off the list. Those others won’t have any selfies or Facebook “Memories” to mention., but maybe just making progress is enough.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-80487175709229093402024-02-28T16:54:00.001+13:002024-02-28T20:00:29.101+13:00A new read among others—and re-reads<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpdWUad_f3PdQerqYuR8oa1c7vVe64INLJmAtLtUW9Y6S3Dhi326WX_MGxwkBswqjsz7HFRDOyqPlmQKDrdlDdhpHwW3lfj5qJJ0Z2OACs0r3wiLB-dqNDkK_J9mi7JfGZvK4P_m9PN7kKxO_AqJWLeM7TqJqE3NOP111MCpdRI46I4qEs10wi/s640/Me-an-book-2024-02-26.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpdWUad_f3PdQerqYuR8oa1c7vVe64INLJmAtLtUW9Y6S3Dhi326WX_MGxwkBswqjsz7HFRDOyqPlmQKDrdlDdhpHwW3lfj5qJJ0Z2OACs0r3wiLB-dqNDkK_J9mi7JfGZvK4P_m9PN7kKxO_AqJWLeM7TqJqE3NOP111MCpdRI46I4qEs10wi/w640-h640/Me-an-book-2024-02-26.png" width="550" /></a></div>Have I ever pre-ordered a book? I don’t know about the past, but on January 8 of this year I pre-ordered the new novel by <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Armistead_Maupin" target="_blank">Armistead Maupin</a></b>, a few weeks after I saw his Facebook page announcing the publication of his latest novel, <i>Mona of the Manor</i>, likely to be the final novel in Maupin’s <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tales_of_the_City" target="_blank"><i>Tales of the City</i></a></b> series of novels. The book arrived Monday (photo above). This was also a bittersweet thing.<br />
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Nigel had all the original <i>Tales of the City</i> books, and when I arrived in New Zealand to live, I read the first three. Auckland reminded me a bit of San Francisco, which I’d visited earlier that year, because of its waterfront and hilly streets. There’s no reason why I hadn’t read the books in the USA, I just didn’t—though I’d been aware of them since I was at university, and newly out, in the early 1980s. before I emigrated, I watched the first series of the TV adaptation of the books, and Nigel and I watched the second and third series together. We bought them on VHS, and we re-bought them on DVD (though I’m pretty sure that buying the DVDs was just Nigel’s doing).<br />
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Maupin began a series of sequels, though at first he didn’t call them that, with <i>Michael Tolliver Lives</i> in 2007, which I bought for Nigel. I also bought him <i>Mary Ann in Autumn</i> (2020), and also <i>The Days of Anna Madrigal</i> (2014), but I don’t know if he ever read that one (by that time he was mostly into audio books, which helped make his work commute much better). <i>Mona of the Manor</i>, then, is the first Armistead Maupin book that Nigel never got the chance to read, and, obviously, I was keenly aware of that fact when publication was announced. If anything, that awareness made me more determined to pre-order.<br />
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Nigel and I also bought the non-<i>Tales</i> book, “The Night Listener”, and we managed to read it before the movie came out. Actually, by “we” I mean me: One way or another, Nigel got through a lot more books than I did (as I’ve said many times, I’m a very slow reader). Nigel already had Maupin’s other non-<i>Tales</i> novel, <i>Maybe the Moon</i>, and both of those books had characters from <i>Tales</i> as supporting characters.<br />
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It’s clear that I have a long personal history with the <i>Tales</i> books, even if I’ve only read the first three books in the series. Right now, I think I’d like to start from the beginning and continue in order until I get to the newest one. We’ll see. Back in 2008, <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2008/02/book-meme-challenges.html" target="_blank">I published a post about book memes</a></b> and said that the <i>Tales</i> series was what I’d want with me if I was on a desert island. I also said, “These will, one day, be books I re-read.” Yes, well, only <i>three</i> of them would’ve been be re-reads, and that hasn’t changes in the sixteen since I wrote that post. The other seven novels would still be new to me.<br />
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Buying this new book completes the set of <i>Tales of the City</i> novels in my personal library, and that appeals to me for many reasons. It’s bittersweet, too, though, because Nigel never got the chance to read <i>Mona of the Manor</i>. I’m sure I’ll enjoy it enough for both of us.<br />
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When something, even a new book, is connected to me so personally, and those connections include memories about Nigel, it’s understandable that I’d feel reflective. This time, it’s mostly happy memories and feelings, just tinged with the bittersweet. As time’s passed, this has become far more common than having memories that only make me sad. Now, I’m mainly just excited to see how time affected Mona. And Anna. And Mary Ann. And Michael. No matter how long it takes me.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-67004956414647113712024-02-25T20:30:00.001+13:002024-02-25T20:30:00.127+13:00Weekend Diversion: 1984, Part 3<iframe allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="309" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/SwYN7mTi6HM" title="YouTube video player" width="550"></iframe>
This week in 1984, yet another new song went to Number One, beginning a five-week run at the top spot. On February 25, 1984, <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jump_(Van_Halen_song)" target="_blank">”Jump”</a></b> (video up top) by American rock band <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Van_Halen" target="_blank">Van Halen</a></b> became the new Number One song. It was the group’s biggest hit, and their only Number One in the USA. The song was the lead single from their sixth studio album, <b><i><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1984_(Van_Halen_album)" target="_blank"><i>1984</i></a></i></b>.<br />
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I think this song is a good example of a pop-rock song from the mid-1980s, not the least because of its heavy reliance on synths. The song was everywhere at the time, which makes sense when it spent five weeks at Number One on the <i>Billboard</i> “Hot 100”, it’s another song that was definitely part of my life’s soundtrack at the time.<br />
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<b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jump_(Van_Halen_song)#Music_video" target="_blank">The music video</a></b> is a performance video, which isn’t necessarily typical in the music video age, but it seems to me it was a good choice for them: Van Halen had been a known as a rock band, and “Jump” was a departure from what they were known for. In was kind of clever marketing, whether intentional or not.<br />
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I was never a fan of Van Halen, and at the time I thought this song was okay, but it wasn’t among my favourites. Part of the reason for my indifference is that I didn’t particularly like lead singer <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Lee_Roth" target="_blank">David Lee Roth</a></b>, who I thought of as a bit of a dick for what <i>Wikipedia</i> described as “his wild and energetic stage persona”, something that can be seen in the video for “Jump”. Years later, I realised he was a showman—still not my thing, but a showman, nevertheless. I may not have warmed to him with time, but I did at least come to appreciate his contribution to pop music in the 1980s. David Lee Roth left Van Halen for a solo career in 1985.<br />
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“Jump” reached Number 2 in Australia, 2 in Canada, 12 in New Zealand, 7 in the UK (Platinum), and Number One on the USA’s <i>Billboard</i> “Hot 100” and on the <i>Billboard</i> “Mainstream Rock” charts; the song was also Gold in the USA.<br />
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The album <i>1984</i> reached 11 in Australia, Number One in Canada (5x Platinum), 15 in New Zealand (Platinum), 15 in the UK (Gold), and 2 on the USA’s “<i>Billboard</i> 200” chart (Diamond).<br />
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This series will return March 31 with another new Number One.<br />
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<b>Previously in the “Weekend Diversion – 1984” series:</b><br />
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<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/weekend-diversion-1984-part-1.html" target="_blank">Weekend Diversion: 1984, Part 1</a></b> – January 21, 2024<br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/02/weekend-diversion-1984-part-2.html" target="_blank">Weekend Diversion: 1984, Part 2</a></b> – February 4, 2024Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-9307185116966139632024-02-25T15:50:00.002+13:002024-02-28T15:50:27.308+13:00My Dad would be 108<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-vsm8jLKVTXA/Vs7EHkPSJUI/AAAAAAAAHnI/yU6uTp_1Cbg/s1600/Dad-IMG_0142.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-vsm8jLKVTXA/Vs7EHkPSJUI/AAAAAAAAHnI/yU6uTp_1Cbg/s400/Dad-IMG_0142.png" width="290" /></a></div>Today is my father’s 108th Birthday. Although he’s obviously well ahead of me in the total number of birthdays, I’ve now had two more than he had while he was alive. That bit of trivia is just plain weird.<br />
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I haven’t written about his birthday since <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/02/my-dad-would-be-105.html" target="_blank">his 105th back in 2021</a></b>, which means I seem to be back in my old pattern of remembering his birthday after it’s passed. I talked about my why this is the case for me <b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2016/02/my-dad-would-be-100.html" target="_blank">back in 2016</a></b>, probably the first time I ever mentioned his birthday on this blog:<br />
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…I’ve tended to forget to write a post about my dad’s birthday because nearly all my blog posts are written just before they’re published. That meant that if I didn’t remember it at the time, I didn’t write about it all. My dad’s birthday was one of those things I always forgot to write about until it had passed (in my defence, there have been other topics, too—actually, I guess that’s not much of a defence after all).<br />
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So… why is this year different and I remembered to write a post? Earlier this month, I ran across something that reminded me and that gave me plenty of time to actually get around to beginning this post ahead head of time. I really ought to plan out such things, but I don’t.<br />
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The more specific trigger to remember was my trip up to Auckland on February 16 to inspect the rental house, which had been the home Nigel and I lived in between 2006 and 2017. In <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/02/my-challenging-visit-to-auckland.html" target="_blank">my post about that trip</a></b>, I said, “we lived there until we shifted to Clarks Beach in South Auckland in February 2017—seven years ago this month.” What I didn’t say was that the date we shifted was Saturday, February 25, 2017—seven years ago today. At the time, I was well aware that the date was my dad’s birthday, and in the years since, I’ve been able to remember the date we shifted to Clarks Beach because of that. However, not even that’s been enough to make me remember to blog about my dad’s birthday—actually, that’s not being fair to me: The date we moved isn’t exactly the sort of thing I’d normally remember, so it’s unlikely the coincidence of dates would’ve helped me remember, anyway. Like I said, I really should plan out such things.<br />
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Obviously, the important thing isn’t some sort of blogging perfection, it’s that, despite everything, I remembered this year because a reminder associated with Nigel and me moving house led to me me thinking about my dad and his influence on me, something that doesn’t happen as much as it used to. He and my mother have been gone so long, and so much as happened since then—two-thirds of my entire life, in fact—that a great many things from my past crowd into my head, especially my past in New Zealand, and I have 28+ years of that.<br />
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As I said in my “most recent” post about his birthday—<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/02/my-dad-would-be-105.html" target="_blank">back in 2021</a></b>:<br />
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Mainly, though, I’m grateful for the base he and my mother gave me, the framework to build the me I would eventually become. I get some of the credit for that, of course, as do other family and my friends (and, again, especially Nigel…), but the fact remains that he and my mother laid the foundation on which I would one day build <i>me</i>. Open eyed, aware, and certain that I may be, I nevertheless acknowledge where I come from, and my Dad was an important part of that.<br />
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That’s still true, obviously, and it’s the context in which I most often think of him and my mother. I can only barely recall the sound of their voices, or how they moved, but I well remember their influence on me.<br />
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My dad’s influence was different than my mother’s. While she nurtured my creativity more than my dad did, he nurtured my intellectual curiosity more than my mother—not that it was a competition, of course, and both contributed their share to both. What this really means is that my relationship with my dad was different than my relationship with my mother. I think that’s true for most people.<br />
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As the years have passed, I’ve become more aware of the differences between my parents as people as well as their different-yet-similar influences on me as I was growing up. They both died much too young—younger than I am now, <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2023/01/the-annual-increasing-number-64.html" target="_blank">as I noted in my annual post about my birthday last year</a></b>:<br />
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64 IS significant in a way that’s meaningful to me: I’ve now attained an age my parents never did. A few months ago, I reached the age at which I’d lived longer than either of them did, but when I hit 64, that milestone was unquestionably over. I’ve been aware of that point for decades, especially when I neared 60. Now, that’s done. So: What’s the next one?<br />
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I think that’s the final piece of the puzzle as to why I continue to struggle to remember my dad’s birthday: Two-thirds of my life happened after my parents died, including all of my life in New Zealand and, especially, my life with Nigel, and I’ve now lived <i>two</i> years longer than they did. It’s all of that, not just that bit of trivia, that’s just plain weird to me.<br />
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Still, my parents, including their birthdays, are part of the tapestry of my life. That tapestry is a bit faded and threadbare in areas, and tattered around the edges, but it’s still here, and they were there when it was first being woven. That’ll always be a very special thing.<br />
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So, as always, thanks, Dad. And Happy Birthday!<br />
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<b>Previously:</b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/02/my-dad-would-be-105.html" target="_blank">My Dad would be 105</a></b> (2021)<br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2016/02/my-dad-would-be-100.html" target="_blank">My dad would be 100</a></b> (2016)<br />
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<b>Related:</b><br />
<b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2009/03/sunday-quiet.html" target="_blank">Sunday Quiet</a></b> (2009) – What Sundays were like when I was a kid<br />
<b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2009/05/like-father-like-son.html" target="_blank">Like father, like son </a></b> (2009) – A reflective post about sons imitating their dads and the freedom my dad gave me<br />
<b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2009/04/easter.html" target="_blank">Easter</a></b> (2009) – Where I talk about my dad’s stage management<br />
<b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2011/04/good-friday-flashback.html" target="_blank">Good Friday Flashback</a></b> (2011) – More about his stage management, with a photo<br />
<b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2013/12/arthur-answers-again-part-two-religion.html" target="_blank">Arthur Answers Again, Part Two – Religion questions</a></b> (2013) – I talk about being a preacher’s kid<br />
<b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2014/12/aaa-14-answer-7-loss-and-memes.html" target="_blank">AAA-14 Answer 7 – Loss and memes</a></b> (2014) – I talk about the death of my parents<br />
<b><a href="http://amerinz.blogspot.com/2014/12/new-years-eve-2014.html" target="_blank">New Year’s Eve 2014</a></b> – In which I talk about one of my favourite memories of my dadArthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-74518652834575612052024-02-22T23:53:00.004+13:002024-02-23T01:24:48.984+13:00The memories trap<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgwUfILDjPm3H7ZmNFVPHLmtTQGbeUU9sdI53aG_5QQz0ODDO3bJjU4W9_FQGtXGhuZKOT_2Y3XYsS4IwBNsxaQ4-n3zEDAFd6Y4GHTmnnDwJSlFcN59b3xYWUfPWprfFpKWcTvCH5ybsSNYvtNTlNW13_KGP15P6XWjVukzg7-duE1-Qr59_r9/s640/1-Morrinsville6808-2021-02-22.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgwUfILDjPm3H7ZmNFVPHLmtTQGbeUU9sdI53aG_5QQz0ODDO3bJjU4W9_FQGtXGhuZKOT_2Y3XYsS4IwBNsxaQ4-n3zEDAFd6Y4GHTmnnDwJSlFcN59b3xYWUfPWprfFpKWcTvCH5ybsSNYvtNTlNW13_KGP15P6XWjVukzg7-duE1-Qr59_r9/w640-h640/1-Morrinsville6808-2021-02-22.png" width="550" /></a></div>The thing about the memories we have about the events in our lives is that they don’t all give us warm feelings. In fact, memories can tigger all sorts of positive and negative emotions, depending on the circumstances. For someone dealing with deep grief, memories can be especially fraught.<br />
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I’ve shared a lot of posts about memories, especially Facebook “Memories”, and I talk about what, if anything, has changed since the events in the memory, possibly including the way I feel about the memory/events themselves. Contrary to expectations or whatever, they’re not all about “bad” stuff.<br />
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A couple days ago, I published <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/02/the-day-a-big-change-arrived.html" target="_blank">“The day a big change arrived”</a></b>, a post about when I my new Mac Mini arrived—definitely a positive thing. This past weekend, though, <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/02/my-challenging-visit-to-auckland.html" target="_blank">I published a reflective/contemplative post</a></b> about my recent trip to the rental house in Auckland, and that wasn’t about a memory that was served up to me (like by Facebook, for example), but, instead, about memories that were triggered within me when I went to a place that was significant in my life.<br />
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There’s a third kind of memory, one that I can talk about in any number of ways, like a happy post that reminds me of sad things, or vice versa. Today, Facebook served up a “Memory” that I shared on Facebook and chose not to talk about further. It turns out I never talked about it directly on this blog, so I’ll start by sharing the lighthearted tone I took when sharing the “Memory” on my personal Facebook today, then I’ll talk about what was going on that I didn’t talk about at the time.<br />
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On February 22, 2021, my cousin-in-law and I took our dogs to be groomed, and since the groomer was quite a long drive from Hamilton, we decided to make a day of it. We ended up in Morrinsville, a town in the Waikato that Nigel and/or I went to from time to time. I took some photos, and in the first one (at the bottom of this post), I said:<br />
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Took the dogs for a trim today, so popped round to nearby Morrinsville. Haven’t spent time here in maybe ~15 years; it’s changed a bit, but the big decorated cows are still all over (I like this one because New Zealand is on the map, which is often not the case overseas).<br />
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It was a mainly lighthearted caption, as was the caption to the photo at the top of this post. I said in that caption:<br />
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Still in Morrinsville. Photo is of some stupid cow. Also, one of Morrinsville’s more unusual cow statues (apparently made from scrap metal). I think she’s giving side eye because I didn’t ask for permission to take a photo with her. Bloody tourists. Also, it’s HOT today!<br />
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When I shared the photo up top on my Facebook, I said: “I was clearly in a very serious mood that day…”. The fact is, I wanted to leave it at that and not talk about <i>the rest</i>, everything else that was going on behind the scenes, and unspoken by me.<br />
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That day in Morrinsville was about three weeks after Sunny died, and the dogs that were being sheared were just Jake and Leo. Jake died about seven months later.<br />
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All of that was immediately in my mind when I saw today’s FB “Memory”, yet I said nothing about it. The thing about memories isn’t just the many ways they can affect us, they can also affect how others view us: Do we focus “too much” on that particular memory? “Should” we have “moved on” from whatever the trauma was? What other judgements might people make if we share memories that are important to use, but that, perhaps, other people think shouldn’t be?<br />
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This is the dilemma that will hit any grieving person eventually, and sometimes it’s a constant war between what we want to say—or <i>need</i> to say—and what we think is socially acceptable. Navigating the stormy seas between those two things is sometimes more challenging than dealing with the grief itself. That’s something I learned quite early on.<br />
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Obviously, I no longer care what anyone else thinks: I’ll speak my truth, and if someone else can’t understand it, or decides to judge me harshly because I do, that’s absolutely not my problem. After all, everything I’ve put online so far has been absolutely free: Absolutely no one is compelled by the force of law or commerce to pay any attention to what I post, if they don't like what I post, that's all about them, not me.<br />
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Nevertheless, it seems that every grieving person—absolutely including me—reaches a point at which we think we should say nothing at all. I’m lucky in that I came to my senses pretty early on. While it may be a <i>bit</i> too harsh to say that my attitude became “fuck that shit”—well, no, it’s not too harsh, because that’s exactly where I ended up. But, then, maybe I’m just lucky? I have little to lose if people reject me for my openness; others aren’t even nearly as lucky.<br />
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Every time I encounter a memory, whether on social media, or even just what the photos widget on my iPad serves up to me every day, it gives me two choices. First, do I share it all? And, if I do, do I speak my truth or spin it? I don’t think most non-grieving people face such choices most of the time.<br />
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Today I chose the easiest path with the FB “Memory” I shared, and other times I don’t. What’s the deciding factor, what makes me choose one over the other? I don’t know. Mood? How I was feeling in that moment? Something else? Does it even matter?<br />
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The negotiations that I hold with myself every single day are echoed by lots of other people dealing with the loss of their person. For us, memories can be especially fraught.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk8H9bZmGz8vt3axRz3famMddK6OwYQ16ghrT6nSezZkgWyfK5Df4fccBtrWaeC27LwooepvLO_o3kvLBvbORr8LYalT8HntGi9knVOXjN3iA0-KbrxTwupimjqCBfuikVEg9LA41rYG6rRx3xsdCpaw26kMr5Yz8Usvh6t6uyj1K5QTF19PeG/s640/3-Morrinsville6805-2021-02-22.png" style="clear: left; display: block; float: left; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk8H9bZmGz8vt3axRz3famMddK6OwYQ16ghrT6nSezZkgWyfK5Df4fccBtrWaeC27LwooepvLO_o3kvLBvbORr8LYalT8HntGi9knVOXjN3iA0-KbrxTwupimjqCBfuikVEg9LA41rYG6rRx3xsdCpaw26kMr5Yz8Usvh6t6uyj1K5QTF19PeG/w640-h640/3-Morrinsville6805-2021-02-22.png" width="550" /></a></div>Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-13084424208417878332024-02-20T17:58:00.002+13:002024-02-20T18:22:34.584+13:00The day a big change arrived<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-epDYYM7SCJI/YC-knn3_GMI/AAAAAAAANgY/ssjX8yqhS8w6koyY2DbbWrpjUdCkxRlcACLcBGAsYHQ/s640/MacMini.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-epDYYM7SCJI/YC-knn3_GMI/AAAAAAAANgY/ssjX8yqhS8w6koyY2DbbWrpjUdCkxRlcACLcBGAsYHQ/w320-h320/MacMini.png" width="320" /></a></div>I share all sorts of anniversaries, so why not a, what? Macaversary? Three years ago this week, my new Apple Mac Mini was delivered. You can thank Facebook for reminding me, and it’s a happy memory, so why not reflect in it?<br />
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I still love my Mac Mini, though had I known the Mac Studio was coming, I’d have waited for that. Be that as it may…<br />
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Three years ago today, when I wrote about my new Mac on Facebook, I talked about buying the Mac Mini and said I’d never ordered anything directly from Apple, and that was true, and what I was thinking about at the time, probably because the whole things was my idea and I was excited about it.<br />
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However, back in 2008, Nigel bought us both iMacs, with the biggest screens available at the time. He ordered them directly from Apple, and they arrived similarly quickly. Nigel then added more memory chips to both computers, because that was back when Apple allowed that. Modern Apple Silicon Macs (like my Mac Mini) use integrated memory that’s part of the CPU, and so, can no longer be upgraded.<br />
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Getting that iMac brought about my return to the Apple ecosystem: I’d been a Mac user from its very early days right up until around the turn of the century when Macs got even more too expensive than they already were, and Nigel built me my first-ever Windows PC. However, despite using a PC professionally for the better part of a decade, I still never understood Windows the way I understood Mac.<br />
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<b><a _blank="" href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/02/into-new-tech.html=">In my blog post on the new Mac</a></b>, written on February 19, the day it actually arrived, I talked in some detail, as I do, about why I bought the machine, specifically, the issues I had with my Hackintosh. However, just shy of three weeks later, <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/03/my-two-day-mission.html" target="_blank">I fixed that problem</a></b>, which basically meant I didn’t need the Mac Mini at that moment, though I obviously didn’t know that when I ordered the new machine. If I had known, I’d probably—possibly?—have held off longer, and may well have bought the higher-spec Mac Studio instead.<br />
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However, I certainly don’t regret buying it: It’s been a great computer for me, and it’s dramatically quieter than my Hackintosh was, which is a bonus. Even so, from time to time consumerist me thinks of upgrading, but I have no need to so, and sense triumphs over desire—for now.<br />
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After the Mac Mini arrived, I said that I felt that whatever my new life would be, it was somehow centred on my office, and my Mac in particular. I later went through a particularly dark time in which that new life seemed farther away than ever, but the feeling of possibility has since returned, which I’m happy about. I can again also see more clearly what I need to do to get to that new life I caught a glimpse of only a few short years ago.<br />
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Now, I just need to make my vision reality. “Macaversary’ or not, that’s a very worthwhile thing to focus on.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-92060671233511408472024-02-19T15:20:00.001+13:002024-02-19T16:23:15.544+13:00Helping Leo<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDHG3uUEDUCpgY8cHW4WC32MvksA4_TYly6GpBDB60JMA4R40fD2MHxb4cbJNQkRXzFMB4A5QCVoxAeIicSmFNpo9Y5-EnxnU6x1DsOFSg7SjHdnH7Frv_b95lzqD8ZCBrlt-v3S8QIAK6ktvaaHrpVTH6llW2hpOKjBN1OTfAJOi90VgESi0u/s640/Leo-eating-2024-02-17.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDHG3uUEDUCpgY8cHW4WC32MvksA4_TYly6GpBDB60JMA4R40fD2MHxb4cbJNQkRXzFMB4A5QCVoxAeIicSmFNpo9Y5-EnxnU6x1DsOFSg7SjHdnH7Frv_b95lzqD8ZCBrlt-v3S8QIAK6ktvaaHrpVTH6llW2hpOKjBN1OTfAJOi90VgESi0u/w640-h640/Leo-eating-2024-02-17.png" width="550" /></a></div>Anyone who decides to share their life with a furbaby makes a lifetime commitment to them to look after their needs and happiness. That requires us to be observant, to notice changes in behaviour or times when they may seem to struggle a bit. This story is about what happens when I observe something that I can help.<br />
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The other day, I noticed that Leo had started sitting down to eat. I remembered seeing somewhere that it’s easier for dogs to eat if their bowl is raised (it’s got to do with the distance from the floor to the dog’s withers, subtracting some amount—though I’d forgotten the amount). So, on impulse, I grabbed a dog bowl used by Jake or Sunny (I don’t know which one—their bowls were identical), turned it upside down, and placed Leo’s bowl on top of it (photo above). I also came up with a solution to raise Jake’s food bowl <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/05/jake-has-champion.html" target="_blank">a few years ago</a></b>.<br />
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Leo’s new set-up was an immediate success: He seemed to like it, and he never even hesitated to eat, something I thought he might do (dogs aren’t keen on change in routines). The next step was to get the measurements I needed so I could give him a more permanent solution.<br />
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I looked up the measurements, and the consensus was to measure from the floor to the top of the dog’s withers, then subtract 6 inches (I also heard “5 to 6 inches”). I don’t use the Imperial system and I don’t think I even have anything that measures in inches, so the first thing I did was convert the deduction amount to centimetres. I already knew that Leo is roughly 29cm at his withers, and that meant I needed to subtract 12.7cm to 15.24cm to get the proper height for Leo: 16.3cm to 14.76cm up from the floor.<br />
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All the raised bowls I found to buy (except one, which is adjustable) measured from the floor to the top edge of the bowl. The temporary setup I gave Leo is 14cm from the floor to the top edge of the bowl, so within the “correct” range.<br />
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However, yesterday morning I noticed Leo was “kind of sitting”, meaning—and please forgive the mental picture—he was kind of in the 💩 position. That suggested to me that the “correct” height may still be too high—and then I remembered that I read on one of the advice sites that small dogs (like Leo) do better with a bowl with a low edge (it apparently doesn’t matter as much to larger dogs?).<br />
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I’d already fed Leo yesterday evening before I remembered I have a low-edge bowl we originally bought when either Jake or Saibh were puppies (I don’t remember which). This morning, though, I got the bowl out of the garage and washed it (it’s been in there quite awhile…) and gave it to him to see how he got on with that. It didn’t work: He grabbed food out of the bowl, put it on the floor, then ate it off the floor. In other words, it was more work for him to eat than his old on-the-floor bowl had been.<br />
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The low-rimmed bowl is metal, and his dog tag would clink against the bowl, making it kind of “ring”. Maybe he didn’t like that? Jake and Sunny used to clink on their metal bowls, and Leo was wary of eating anywhere too close to them so it’s entirely possible he associates the sound with his wariness back then. The clinking against his ceramic bowl is much more subtle, plus it’s the same bowl he’s used ever since he came to live with us.<br />
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I have one more thing to try: Some years back, after I noticed Bella wanted to pretty much lay down to eat, I bought some small plates to put her food on, and she munched happily every time. I’m going to get out one of those plates and put Leo’s food on it to see how he likes that. It could well be the same scene as with the metal bowl he didn’t like this morning—picking up his food and putting it on the floor to eat.<br />
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If he rejects the plate, too, it could mean he wants his current bowl, and that would mean buying a new raised bowl—regardless of how deep it is—might not be any more successful, and I’d be reluctant to take the risk and end up with yet another dog bowl that isn’t used. So, if he does reject the plate, too, I may just make a more permanent stand for his current bowl.<br />
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What this whole situation is about, at its core, what I talked about back when I raised Jake’s food bowl:<br />
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What occurred to me later is that this is my strength: I see a problem, evaluate possible solutions to arrive at what I think is the best solution, and then I put it into action. In this particular case, it worked the first time, which isn’t necessarily a very common or usual thing, but what matters is that this is how I operate. And that it worked.<br />
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Nigel and I were very different. He’d conduct in-depth research to arrive at the <i>best possible</i> solution, while I’d look at all the observable facts to arrive at a <i>useful</i> solution. He was more about the right solution, and mine was more about a workable and fast solution (and, to be honest, one that was cost-effective). This particular time is one where my solution may have been his choice, but it’s also one he’d have have backed, even as he looked for a different (probably more elaborate) solution. Whatever works, especially for our furbabies, is all that would’ve mattered to either of us.<br />
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This project (for lack of a better word) has been one of those times when my first attempt at a solution didn’t completely work, something that’s a fairly common outcome. But this tale also gets at another truth: I’ll keep working on a problem until I either find a solution that works, or I reach a point at which there’s nothing more I can do/try. When the latter happens, it means that maybe I need to hire someone to do it, or maybe I just need to buy something rather than trying to make what I already have work. Or, maybe I just need to give up, if it’s not important. Flexibility and persistence are the common elements in all my searches for solutions to problems I’ve encountered, but I’m not too proud to admit defeat when it happens.<br />
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At any rate, this story isn’t over quite yet. But telling it now gives me an excuse to share a photo of Leo, which is reason enough to not wait until the story’s conclusion. This is really all about him, anyway.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-55493383438500072362024-02-18T12:27:00.002+13:002024-02-19T14:52:53.865+13:00My challenging visit to Auckland<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhz_-u50hwogi-r97I6lTuaPcrJCI9RVyYPAHLggScuEbYguRIS2lU9GxyMjvZHaBJDquHW0TQWNkawq5WpijGJM_sJJ2JB2lhDmEGNnzt9lSNORSLfAM-MTtBtQryVAjPSTiG-iZ97szXHozFdkSvPQL_Xvwk6BgPC5xT_t191_rD6dG8UPiSW/s640/Me-2024-02-16.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhz_-u50hwogi-r97I6lTuaPcrJCI9RVyYPAHLggScuEbYguRIS2lU9GxyMjvZHaBJDquHW0TQWNkawq5WpijGJM_sJJ2JB2lhDmEGNnzt9lSNORSLfAM-MTtBtQryVAjPSTiG-iZ97szXHozFdkSvPQL_Xvwk6BgPC5xT_t191_rD6dG8UPiSW/w640-h640/Me-2024-02-16.png" width="550" /></a></div>Friday was a very busy day, but also one that was far more challenging than I thought it would be. Early that morning—far too early for my liking—I drove up to Auckland (1hr 45+ on a good day) to meet with the agent looking after our rental property. I say “our” because Nigel and I bought the house in 2006 and we lived there until we shifted to Clarks Beach in South Auckland in February 2017—seven years ago this month.<br />
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I haven’t been inside the house since Nigel and I left, but the house was between tenants, and so, it waa the perfect opportunity for me to look at the place and see what needs attention long term. The good news is that the place is a little tired, but nothing horrid needs to be done. The outside, however, is truly awful and the property needs a major clean out.<br />
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When I first went into the house, I felt nothing: It was just an empty house—and in surprisingly good shape. As I wandered around, though, I saw not a house, but what had been our home for more than a decade.<br />
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I saw the spot where my desk was, the place where I worked, but, more important to my soul, also the place where I wrote my first blog post, recorded my first podcast episodes, where I edited my first YouTube video.<br />
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In the room next door, I saw where Nigel’s desk was, where he did his work—often for hours before dawn—but also where he spent countless hours researching projects, and where he sat when he and I did his Internet radio shows. It was the place he stimulated his mind, nurtured his interests, and fed his soul, too.<br />
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I saw what was our bedroom, and I could imagine Nigel napping there, Jake, Sunny, and Bella sleeping near him (long before Leo was born). I saw the guest room wall Nigel and I painted (before it was just a bedroom) with special paint so he wouldn’t need a screen to watch movies using his projector—and, of course, he’d spent hours researching the paint needed. And I remembered how we’d later had it painted over when the room became just a bedroom (by then Nigel had bought a motorised screen to hang on the wall).<br />
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I saw family gatherings we had in the open-plan living/kitchen/dining—except, it was just a general kind of vision because there were too many to visualise just one—not even just our Civil Union, or the party after we were married. I saw where the spa pool had been out on the deck, where our table and chairs were, where the BBQ was. I took my selfie up top standing in that space.<br />
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I remembered every thing we did to that house, big or little, to make it better. I also remembered sometime in the first year after we moved to Clarks Beach, Nigel asked me if I wanted to move back to the Shore, because he could see how unhappy I was. I told him no, that it was just my ongoing health issues (which I blogged about at the time) that got me down, because that’s really all it was. But I also knew that the main reason we’d moved to South Auckland in the first place was to cut the length of his commute down to a (sometimes…) acceptable length of time. I wanted him to be happy as much as he wanted me to be.<br />
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There was one more entirely unexpected thing that triggered a memory: When I went back into the garage as part of my final look around, I happened to glance at the track for the garage door, and I noticed a clothes peg clipped to it (photo at the bottom of this post).<br />
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When we lived in the house, I put one there so I could hang Nigel’s work shirts on the track to dry, and the clothes peg gave me a border of sorts to make sure the wheels of the door wouldn’t hit the hangers, and that the top of the door wouldn’t hit the clean shirts.<br />
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When Nigel and I were doing our final chores in the house after we’d moved out, I certainly didn’t look up—I was too busy looking around to make sure we’d done everything we needed to do. I have no way of knowing whether a tenant put that there, or if it really is the same one I put there at least eight or nine years ago, but in a sense it doesn’t matter: Either way, it was a vivid reminder of the ordinary life we had in that that house. I left the clothes peg where it was, kind of like the memories I was leaving there, too.<br />
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The thing is, I loved that house on the Shore: Of all the houses we shared, that was by far my favourite. We made so many happy memories in that house, but the house after that is forever tainted by being our last house precisely because of <i>why</i> it was our last house.<br />
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None of which is to imply I hated Clarks Beach, because I didn’t. The best next door neighbours we had anywhere in New Zealand were the ones we had at Clarks Beach. I did, however, find living there a challenge because it was remote from, and time consuming to get to, both shops we’d visit regularly, and from all the family. In the months before he died, Nigel was already thinking about where we might move next, and his chief criteria was it had to be more rural so he could finally use the wind turbine he bought to make electricity (and he was also planning on building the battery bank to store power—I mean, of course he was!). He knew we could never have a wind turbine at the house in Clarks Beach when the property was surrounded by six other houses.<br />
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It’s against literally all of those thoughts and memories that I found myself in what had been my literal “happy place”, and Nigel’s, too, for most of our time there: He was always far more restless than me, but at his core, to him, just like me, “home” was wherever we and our furbabies were living, and everything else (style of house, location, etc) was always completely negotiable, but being together was not.<br />
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The longer I was in the house on Friday, the more cold it felt. It was as if the house itself was sad and exhausted, though it’s possible I could’ve been projecting. Toward the end of my time there, I looked around and thought how small the house looked, and maybe it’s because it was empty. That’s something I know about, too.<br />
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The house is fine, and I still like it, but: It’s not home, not anymore. If I was to move back there and put everything back exactly where it once was (and, I definitely wouldn’t do that, and not just because I’ve gotten rid of some furniture and gained some new), it couldn’t be the same. So, what’d be the point?!<br />
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The street where the house is located has become awful: Developers tore down/removed one (or two houses next to each other) and replaced them with six or eight three-storey townhouses, meaning both sides of the street are filled with parked cars, reducing the street to the width of one and a half cars. If cars going in opposite directions meet, the only solution is for one of them to pull over where cars aren’t parked so the other car can get through—what passes for urban planning these days, apparently.<br />
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The larger area where the house is located is fine—but it’s not mine anymore, either. I stopped in the Countdown—sorry, Woolworths—at Highbury shopping centre, and it was fine—even though I had no mental map of the shop (it’s been a long time…). Even so, I could see that right now it’s easily my favourite Woolworths, and light years nicer than how truly awful the one at Te Rapa in Hamilton is (that horrid shop is one of the main reasons I used to order online so much).<br />
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The Highbury shopping centre, where I spent so much of my shopping time for most of my years in New Zealand (mostly because it had what then was called Countdown) had recently been ruined—sorry, “renovated”—and I’d describe it as an above ground dungeon: Dark, claustrophobic, the sort of place I’d want to get out of quickly.<br />
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I also had sushi from the place near the house (Nigel and I often got Japanese from there) and it was really nice—but not nearly as nice as I remembered. I sense a pattern here.<br />
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As I turned onto the motorway to head back to Hamilton, I saw–as I’d done so many times—the skyline of Auckland’s waterfront and CBD glistening in the sun, blue skies with white clouds overhead, and I was struck, yet again, by how beautiful it is. I always thought that, but the skyline, too, has changed, and for the better, in my opinion. I still think it’s one of the most beautiful city skylines I’ve seen anywhere, with the harbour at its feet and its pleasantly compact size, relative to some of the world’s truly big cities. I still love that view as much now as the day Nigel I left the North Shore to live in South Auckland, near a different harbour.<br />
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They say you can never go home again—and it turns out “they” may be right. It was a sad, wistful, reflective, melancholy day for me, but not entirely unexpected. Nor was the fact I briefly teared up as I drove south—very briefly, because I was on the Auckland motorway at the time. It was because of all my memories, all that I’ve lost, and my current reality that’s tethered to all of that, yet connected to nothing. I don’t know what the future holds, but I know there’s no permanent refuge in the warmth of the past.<br />
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I still have a lot to figure out, but Friday reminded me the future is mine to forge. Someday yet I may even see that as a good thing.<br /><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjA4VZ4Wt_namiM2ghxaGA4DL3DDce5I0lLpkcvy_InUyFM9eD4oH2ASRw444ApJ5r9mzIRUyUUvPQELvBa3eCfhFjqxpRAg9ZpVK5RCoDbR2UXmrchSMyo6O1spESR7JKWU1ntpDPA9Kh5Cy_qNDrWx8W7UNYJe6Z1hwrkZ8eUoPAF5UcwUm2W/s640/UnexpectedRemind-2024-02-16.png" style="clear: left; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; padding: 0em 0px; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjA4VZ4Wt_namiM2ghxaGA4DL3DDce5I0lLpkcvy_InUyFM9eD4oH2ASRw444ApJ5r9mzIRUyUUvPQELvBa3eCfhFjqxpRAg9ZpVK5RCoDbR2UXmrchSMyo6O1spESR7JKWU1ntpDPA9Kh5Cy_qNDrWx8W7UNYJe6Z1hwrkZ8eUoPAF5UcwUm2W/w640-h640/UnexpectedRemind-2024-02-16.png" width="550" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">An very unexpected reminder in the garage.</td></tr></tbody></table>Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-89886810008323016762024-02-14T23:56:00.003+13:002024-02-15T01:19:05.884+13:00Fiji Trip – The final post<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiv5Ts4U-c9f8AeE5SCsVrWeelbHYwgWBZln6-dYesTxqXWt6JVyii1m0nj8IH6BKs0mKAi6VgalgNbr1Q-QEfy58uICslncKfw23ik4wtzR7u3_kCYcX4TQPnPiIPbCKhEBW767ZXoeGjTelYBmVpHuieLIL5b7-MvkIRd1VbThK4wR8CmeBFM/s640/6Fiji-1-Me-NadiAirport-2024-01-22.png" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiv5Ts4U-c9f8AeE5SCsVrWeelbHYwgWBZln6-dYesTxqXWt6JVyii1m0nj8IH6BKs0mKAi6VgalgNbr1Q-QEfy58uICslncKfw23ik4wtzR7u3_kCYcX4TQPnPiIPbCKhEBW767ZXoeGjTelYBmVpHuieLIL5b7-MvkIRd1VbThK4wR8CmeBFM/w320-h320/6Fiji-1-Me-NadiAirport-2024-01-22.png" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Me at Nadi Airport.</td></tr></tbody></table>And now, finally, is the last post in my series about my trip to Fiji. I planned on doing this last week, but life got in the way. It’s not the first time that’s happened, of course, and it certainly won’t be the last. On the positive side, the delay gave me time to fix the typos in the parts of this series I’d already published.<br />
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The day we left went reasonably well, all things considered. I say that because the rental cars we had weren’t great, and the replacement one was smaller than the original. So three of our group took a taxi to the airport, and I went in the care they would’ve gone in, something that gave me the entire back seat. The other four went in the car I had been in on the trip to the resort and on our little trips. What this meant in practice was that we were all more comfortable—less squashed—than we were on the trip to the resort.<br />
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We got to the airport in Nadi with plenty of time. I went inside with the sister-in-law I’d travelled to Auckland with so we could check our suitcases. The selfie up top is shortly after I was inside the terminal.<br />
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<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUWtIYL8rD_0hqmjSYQKlO15nd2gmA-FYuStuKIDEykMSM3cpeY68kh1m3SdnfqBlFTFupRaqOFeXX5CoRoFNRDysl0ZZ7WLqoKR3R9MDTdBvPjtoX4QEyEjj_wYJNmicCSHpZAf1b8G3wPAUzcsgHDFzAkTtfGVlPEBbwxsvVPAO9nce_UJ3S/s320/6Fiji-2-ThePlane-2024-01-22.png" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="320" data-original-width="320" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUWtIYL8rD_0hqmjSYQKlO15nd2gmA-FYuStuKIDEykMSM3cpeY68kh1m3SdnfqBlFTFupRaqOFeXX5CoRoFNRDysl0ZZ7WLqoKR3R9MDTdBvPjtoX4QEyEjj_wYJNmicCSHpZAf1b8G3wPAUzcsgHDFzAkTtfGVlPEBbwxsvVPAO9nce_UJ3S/s1600/6Fiji-2-ThePlane-2024-01-22.png" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Our flying chariot awaits.</td></tr></tbody></table>When we went through security, I took my devices out of my bag, of course, but I also put all my leftover Fiji coins in the tray and took off my belt, too, something that I didn’t do in Auckland. It worked: I didn’t have to go through full body scanner (aka “the porn scan”) or get a pat down. In fact, it was the fastest I’ve ever gone through security ever since “security theatre” began at airports in 2001.<br />
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We went to the gate area and had a quick lunch (I had Burger King, for the record). I bought some snacks for the plane (rather than buying anything on board), and basically waited and waited and waited. Boarding finally started, and we headed toward the plane.<br />
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In Auckland, we had to take a bus to the plane and walk up steps. In Nadi, it was a normal boarding through a skybridge. Much more civilised. I found my seat, and just as in Auckland, the screen in front of me said hello to me—here’s the evidence, along with my on board selfie:<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGEXQP2W5RjNroOAP64IyxIDPjOC6OqAuZzhSCd2MJPEKTNZ2s9O7-AjmnLvhfI43DfeyeDM6iIcqI3BsNAHEGUTnzxflZ7dwKlwDs_DhzS_rOEjKAm9CgTw2FPGdVjgftqS6kYBmdOq1EIzO-WQII2lBUF-0XjViay-h3RFPHY2RqvAB0U8at/s640/6Fiji-3-OnThePlane-2024-01-22.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="320" data-original-width="640" height="275" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGEXQP2W5RjNroOAP64IyxIDPjOC6OqAuZzhSCd2MJPEKTNZ2s9O7-AjmnLvhfI43DfeyeDM6iIcqI3BsNAHEGUTnzxflZ7dwKlwDs_DhzS_rOEjKAm9CgTw2FPGdVjgftqS6kYBmdOq1EIzO-WQII2lBUF-0XjViay-h3RFPHY2RqvAB0U8at/w640-h320/6Fiji-3-OnThePlane-2024-01-22.png" width="550" /></a></div><br />The flight was uneventful, and we ended up landing roughly on time, despite waiting around 20 minutes after boarding to be cleared for take-off. Once in Auckland, I had to go through the “something to declare” line in customs because of the artwork the family had given me: The hook looked like it might be made from a seashell, it had a line woven from natural fibres, and it was in a wooden frame. The agent cleared me without even inspecting it.<br />
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It was a loooooooooong walk to my sister-in-law’s car (the carpark area is being totally reworked, and the complaints about it have piled so hight that planes have to fly around the stack. Sort of.<br />
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When we were on the road and close to Hamilton, I texted my cousin-in-law who’d offered to bring Leo to my house, and shortly after that we found out the motorway was closed (it’s being re-built for around the hundredth time since it opened a decade or so ago (slight exaggeration, but it has been worked on many times, allegedly because they cut too many corners when it was first built on the swampy land, and constant repairs have been necessary). By the time we found that out, my cousin-in-law was already on her way.<br />
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We needed to take a detour, and at first neither of us knew where we’d ended up—but then we reached a roundabout and I knew exactly how to get to my house from there, something that’s still a pretty unusual thing for me in Hamilton. My cousin-in-law was already at my house when we finally got there.<br />
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My sister-in-law left for home, and I rushed inside and turned on the air conditioners. My cousin-in-law and I visited for awhile, with Leo sitting right up against her on the sofa. He eventually forgave me (I shared a photo of him and me from that night <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/reentering-normal-days.html" target="_blank">in a post a few days after I got home</a></b>).<br />
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In each of my posts in this series, I’ve talked about some of my impressions relating to the things I saw and did on the days I was talking about in the post. Some of what I said, like about the omnipresence of overt Christianity and religiosity in Suva, was actually true about what I saw elsewhere, too. I also saw what we’d consider poverty everywhere: The traditional lodge-style thatched homes had nearly all been replaced by simple frame houses that can be seen in any New Zealand town, but with one difference: In Fiji, they often had no doors nor glass in the window openings. Instead, the windows might have wooden louvres, or maybe just some sort of sheer net-like fabric, a bit like window screens in curtain form.<br />
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Every village along the road had speed bumps in them to slow down traffic, but those same speed bumps were sometimes in what seemed like the middle of nowhere. In general, the roads we took were pretty well maintained, with some exceptions here and there.<br />
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The road from Nadi to the resort often reminded me of New Zealand, with similar vegetation. However, the road from the resort to Suva was more what I expected Fiji to look like: Lots of palm trees of various species, and other tropical plants.<br />
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The people I dealt with were all polite and friendly, and they really do say “Bula!” when you enter a shop or whatever. I’d seen that in tourism commercials, but I didn’t know if it was real—it is (it essentially translates as “hello” or “welcome”).<br />
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Cash was still used a lot—something I’m not used to anymore—but EFTPOS (debit cards not on a credit card network) were harder to use. The resort had fairly decent wifi (I installed a VPN on my devices right before I left Hamilton so I could use their wifi safely), but there was no television, and I know Fiji has TV broadcasts. Some TVs in the resort were “smart TVs”, so they could stream Netflix (I don’t have an account), and some rooms had DVD players with a selection that could be borrowed, though some of our group tried that and found that many DVDs wouldn’t play. I never even turned the TV in my room on.<br />
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Once I was on the road to Auckland, I felt better than I’d felt in weeks, because I was beyond the stress and anxiety of my preparations to leave, especially having to leave Leo in someone else’s care for so long. Apart from the rocky “pre-trip” time, I enjoyed the experience, and had a good time with our group.<br />
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Having said all that, I have no desire to go back to Fiji, nor to go to any other tropical south Pacific island nation. They’re all different, and absolutely are <i>not</i> all the same, but this trip taught me that I don’t cope well with heat combined with high humidity. Also, I learned a long time ago (when Nigel and I lived in Paeroa) that I’m a city boy at heart, and a short time in a remote area is fun, but if it was too long, I’d get over it pretty fast.<br />
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The length of our trip was perfect: The day we left I was absolutely ready to go home, and looking forward to sleeping in my own bed, a decent warm shower, and, most of all, seeing Leo. I think even one more day could well have been too long for my liking.<br />
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I don’t know how many more opportunities to travel I’ll have in the years ahead, nor whether they’d be solo or a group trip (though I doubt I’d be willing to go on a long trip by myself). I know that, as I said only once at the very start, the trip would’ve been more fun for me if Nigel had been there. I was well aware that my last overseas trip was when <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2017/12/secret-and-unexpected-trip.html" target="_blank">he and I went to Australia’s state of Queensland in 2017</a></b>, and my last trip away anywhere was to Queenstown in the South Island <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2020/12/a-holiday-in-queenstown.html" target="_blank">back in November of 2020</a></b>. It turned out that it was good for me to get away: I didn’t realise how much I needed a complete break until I was on one.<br />
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Now, though, it’s time to push on with everyday life again.<br />
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<b>Previously:</b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/travelling-gratitude.html" target="_blank">”Travelling gratitude”</a></b> – After I was home.<br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-one.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part One</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-two.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Two</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-three.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Three</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-four.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Four</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/02/fiji-trip-part-five.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Five</a></b>Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-35976822403475258762024-02-13T23:24:00.001+13:002024-02-14T00:30:00.894+13:00Leo’s big day<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhKd2V_FrYwOfhZYkS2c17WceQOGSzxu3Zl9fN28JS6ecv15n9EfBsZikz3chnWNcmw_XxuiCaI5FPoSzU2opIHYAk_wCOO0R6JBZFBKabb41PBFEDTNVw6gij55SYV0n9hiGUTBvggvnvJULScWzRWnzG5uaeCrAh086ZxfU1I9JtrKaV8SrNh/s640/Leo-1-2024-02-13.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhKd2V_FrYwOfhZYkS2c17WceQOGSzxu3Zl9fN28JS6ecv15n9EfBsZikz3chnWNcmw_XxuiCaI5FPoSzU2opIHYAk_wCOO0R6JBZFBKabb41PBFEDTNVw6gij55SYV0n9hiGUTBvggvnvJULScWzRWnzG5uaeCrAh086ZxfU1I9JtrKaV8SrNh/w640-h640/Leo-1-2024-02-13.png" width="550" /></a></div>Big day today: Leo finally got groomed! I hadn’t been able to find anyone for so long that I just gave up and tried to groom him myself—and some attempts better than others, to be honest. I stopped in chain pet store Animates in early January for Leo’s food, and they mentioned they had a groomer, which I thought was a new thing. It turned out, she’s been there the better part of two years, apparently. Okay, then.<br />
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I’d taken him somewhere else as recently as last year, but I wasn’t completely comfortable with the groomer, and since I thought Animates didn’t have a groomer, I decided to take it on myself. Guess I don’t have to now.<br />
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I like Animates because it’s all on one level and really easy and quick for me to get to now that the connecting road is open. Plus, his vet is in the same place (owned by the same company). However, today’s appointment was the first available when I booked last month.<br />
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He hasn’t exactly forgiven me yet, though. After an evening of trying, I think I may run out of treats trying to bribe him…<br />
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<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiy2AmuILWpcEgN-f64XIHr2wWZt4CwmR1qIsZaUWSO6gRLgnJoCtYHvcTc64bbiNF-5g9bVgwK2cKJ8iVAoV4T5tqFR5-gOgHDbKq1ocfJL7LzM6jJqqxFUeLyk0c_Ou64fsUveN6777z8jK5JRzkADv5d_4cUD4AqvDi1OwetAg8ArhFb6ein/s640/Leo-2-2024-02-13.png" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiy2AmuILWpcEgN-f64XIHr2wWZt4CwmR1qIsZaUWSO6gRLgnJoCtYHvcTc64bbiNF-5g9bVgwK2cKJ8iVAoV4T5tqFR5-gOgHDbKq1ocfJL7LzM6jJqqxFUeLyk0c_Ou64fsUveN6777z8jK5JRzkADv5d_4cUD4AqvDi1OwetAg8ArhFb6ein/w640-h640/Leo-2-2024-02-13.png" width="550" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: #f0f2f5; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; text-align: start;">Leo’s “disinterested model looking away” pose…</span></td></tr></tbody></table><br />Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-46364795171133861702024-02-13T16:08:00.000+13:002024-02-13T18:17:25.656+13:00Unwrapping my future<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL0ukWsuLFQ4UQKtpwz4XUGxzP1yHw9i2D44CvByUc4yXeuklS1XLUOTaaIp7jhv-xUEPZPTHEVJtUcE7jMNLgwHEE4976yxfRACkA_r8yAIM1Zjo_QgmakTFeElojGObCcl7Wvfm47Yd5o-BWd5LD2-I2iTdjqrrIzgIcQm_5rlH9BC-3bqHo/s640/Unpacking-2020-02-10.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL0ukWsuLFQ4UQKtpwz4XUGxzP1yHw9i2D44CvByUc4yXeuklS1XLUOTaaIp7jhv-xUEPZPTHEVJtUcE7jMNLgwHEE4976yxfRACkA_r8yAIM1Zjo_QgmakTFeElojGObCcl7Wvfm47Yd5o-BWd5LD2-I2iTdjqrrIzgIcQm_5rlH9BC-3bqHo/w640-h640/Unpacking-2020-02-10.png" width="550" /></a></div>Four years ago this week, on February 10, 2020, I posted the photo above on social media. At the time, I was in the midst of unpacking kitchen stuff, and at one point, the photo was typical of what I saw nearly every day.<br />
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That day, I never shared that photo, or my thoughts about it, here on the blog. Instead, I posted it to my personal Facebook <b><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B8XrIQBp1CR/" target="_blank">and on my Instagram</a></b>, I said in the caption:<br />
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Of such is my life right now: A seemingly endless number of boxes, often packed illogically, most containing so much paper that I’d hate to think how many hectares of forest were cleared to make it all. I empty them, put away what I’ll keep, and the rest together to later donate/sell/give away. It’s a slow but thorough process. The empty boxes are going to a good home, and the paper will be recycled, and soon I’ll reach the point where I have more completed boxes stuffed with used paper than ones filled with stuff—and paper. Onward! 🤣<br />
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Four years ago?</i> I eventually emptied the packed boxes, then repacked some. I did give away or sell some stuff, but I have a lot more usable stuff to get rid of. For the stuff that wasn’t useable (mostly broken stuff that couldn’t be fixed), I recycled what I could and put the rest in my household rubbish. I actually got rid of far more stuff than anyone realises—including me.<br />
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The moving company came and collected empty boxes twice, first <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2020/08/moving-progress.html" target="_blank">in August 2020</a></b>, and the second time was <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/11/two-lasts-last-too.html" target="_blank">in November 2021</a></b>, after I emptied out the boxes of used paper. Both times were delayed by Covid lockdowns.<br />
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Much of the best used paper went to other folks who were shifting, I recycled some of it, and I used some as packing for stuff I sold online. I still have a stack, though, and this autumn I’m removing the deteriorated weed mat on the bank along the side of my property, and I’ll spread the paper as part of a new degradable weed mat to help me transform that bank it into (mostly) lawn, a project I’ll talk about at that time.<br />
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Everything pretty much stalled between October 2021 and early 2023, but I’m back at it now. What I’ve realised over the past couple years is that it’s not just all the stuff I knew I needed to get rid of, I now know how much of the stuff that I never planned to get rid of also has to go—like the bowls, platters, and dishes Nigel and I used when we had lots of family around for dinners. I just don’t need that much everyday stuff anymore—and, actually, I now realise that Nigel and I didn’t need all of it, either.<br />
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I definitely haven’t finished settling into this house yet, but for the first time in four years, I feel that’s actually possible and achievable. I feel more settled and at peace than I have in years—probably since Nigel and I shifted out of our house on Auckland’s North Shore in 2017, but definitely for the first time since Nigel died. I think I may actually be closing in on what I said I wanted to reach: Contentment. Now, I want to see where this goes.<br />
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My journey has reached a point where I need to remove stuff keeping me tethered to my old life, because that’s gone and never coming back. Better someone else gets to use stuff that no longer helps me, and in the unlikely event my life one day puts me in place where I need things like I’m sending away, I can replace them. I doubt that will ever happen, but even if it does, at least the burden and weight of stuff will be gone in the meantime.<br />
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At the time I posted the photo, several people at first thought it was fish and chips. At that point, still hadn’t had any at my house, but I eventually did when family came round. To this day, I’ve still never gone to the takeaway shop by myself.<br />
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It turns out, there’s still a lot for me to unwrap—just not as much physical stuff these days.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-19016461935714087442024-02-12T21:00:00.012+13:002024-02-13T00:52:12.499+13:00My house says hello<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIi8vo8BgsmIpsq_5h9IRlsLYn5tG_vSSqcWaRycsbaWkjdFM8qKi76WXJ_lmsi0xbBzy_0aY4eyNeKT_nngmJTzRsfihrs3JHhOnzUAaMTKL_QLkiKVjMIsZyLzhrXFB6Kysk_5MyWgHxJHpP-uugjVDZ2n9P44zhwyRCilyW3yZ9pfiYh4A-/s640/Doormat-2024-02-12.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIi8vo8BgsmIpsq_5h9IRlsLYn5tG_vSSqcWaRycsbaWkjdFM8qKi76WXJ_lmsi0xbBzy_0aY4eyNeKT_nngmJTzRsfihrs3JHhOnzUAaMTKL_QLkiKVjMIsZyLzhrXFB6Kysk_5MyWgHxJHpP-uugjVDZ2n9P44zhwyRCilyW3yZ9pfiYh4A-/w640-h640/Doormat-2024-02-12.png" width="550" /></a></div>Today, I put out a new mat at my front door (photo above). There wasn’t anything <i>wrong</i> with <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2021/05/walking-all-over-my-values.html" target="_blank">the one I bought in 2021</a></b>, though it was looking a bit tired, mostly because the lettering was fading, but also because it has a habit of hoarding grass clippings.<br />
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So, I bought a new inexpensive doormat, and ot was delivered today. After I swapped the door mats, I cleaned up the old one and put it in the garage for now. I’ll probably swap them again the next time I want a change—or, I might put the old one by the side door to the garage because I actually probably use that door nearly as much as the front door (my rubbish and recycling wheelie bins are there, and I often go out that door to bring a barking Leo back inside the house…).<br />
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In the photo up top, there’s dry grass clippings at the front edge of the doormat, blown there from the lawn, which I mowed a week ago today—I noticed that there’s a lot of dry grass clippings around. The (barely visible) water drops on the cement are because I’d just watered the plants by the front door. <br />
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This was not a significant thing, nor a big job or project, but over the past week I’ve been extremely busy with a bunch of other little projects (more about that later this week). That’s kept be busy in the daytime, and left me little or no time for my usual blogging and podcasting, mainly because, even on a normal day, I’m generally too tired to do any of that stuff in the evenings.<br />
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Last week I also slept badly on three different nights, and that can wipe me out for the entire next day. Add it all together, and I have a backlog of stories to tell—positive stories, no less (aside from the poor sleep, of course).<br />
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Each of those stories I haven’t been able to get to yet has more to it than merely what I did—in some cases, it’s the rest of the story that’s actually the point. Just like today.<br />
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Today I changed a doormat because I wanted to make a change out front, right at the front door. What led me to do that, and what’s been keeping me so busy, are things with stories still to come.<br />
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But at least my house has a fresh doormat saying “hello”.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-22314303547758072732024-02-04T16:27:00.004+13:002024-02-25T17:42:58.680+13:00Weekend Diversion: 1984, Part 2<iframe allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/JmcA9LIIXWw" title="YouTube video player" width="560"></iframe>
It's five weeks into the year, and in this week in 1984, a new song went to Number One—but it was only the second new song of the three to reach Number One song that year, as I mentioned last time.<br />
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On February 4, 1984, <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karma_Chameleon" target="_blank">”Karma Chameleon”</a></b> (video up top) by <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Culture_Club" target="_blank">Culture Club</a></b> became the new Number One song. It was the group’s biggest hit, and their only Number One in the USA, though they had Top Ten hits. The song was the lead single from their second album, <b><i><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colour_by_Numbers" target="_blank">Colour by Numbers.</a></i></b> <br />
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This song is exactly the sort thing I think of when I think of pop music from the 1980s, the mid-1980s in particular. Because the song was everywhere at the time, spending three weeks at Number One on the <billboard i=""> “Hot 100”, it’s a song that was definitely part of my life’s soundtrack at the time.<br />
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<b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karma_Chameleon#Music_video" target="_blank">The music video</a></b> was shot in England, standing in for 19th Century Mississippi river and a riverboat. I liked the video for “Karma Chameleon” more than those for most of Culture Club’s other songs, possibly because the song was such a big hit, or maybe it was Roy Hay’s haircut, which I really liked (I was, and proudly still am, often shallow about such things). In any event, the peppy song and its video really appealed to me.<br />
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According to the <i>Wikipedia</i> article on the song, <b><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karma_Chameleon#Background" target="_blank">Boy George explained what the song is about:</a></b><br />
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"The song is about the terrible fear of alienation that people have, the fear of standing up for one thing. It's about trying to suck up to everybody. Basically, if you aren't true, if you don't act like you feel, then you get Karma-justice, that's nature's way of paying you back."<br />
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This explains the imagery in the video, where “the bad guy” meets his comeuppance when his thievery and cheating is revealed, and he encounters karma at the pointy end of ladies’ parasols. Not that I necessarily got that at the time, though I suppose I would’ve, or at least could’ve, if I’d paid any real attention to music videos. My ability (or willingness…) to do that came along much later.<br />
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One of the things I most remember about Culture Club in general was the negative reaction so many people—well, mostly men—had to Boy George’s appearance. Most of it was toxic homophobia—and pretty much as irrational and bizarre as modern US rightwingers’ current reflexive hatred of Taylor Swift, though for different reasons. The bigoted reactions to George certainly didn’t hurt Culture Club’s record sales or airplay, though, and George is still recording, so I’d say he and Culture Club pretty much won that early edition of the Right’s culture wars.<br />
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I was already a grassroots LGBT+ activist when this song came out, and I remember some more conservative gay men were quite adamant about their dislike of Culture Club, or Boy George specifically, because they thought he was projecting a “bad image”, or “perpetuating stereotypes” of gay men. As an activist, I ran into anti-gay and homophobic prejudices and bigotry all the time, but it really annoyed me when I ran across a version of the same thing coming from my fellow gay men.<br />
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Some of my colleagues dismissed such complaints from gay men as “internalised homophobia”, and for some perhaps it was. To me, though, it suggested they were reacting not because they were gay so much as because of fear: They were well aware of what being identified as gay, different, or “other” could result in. I thought that it was more about their own feelings of insecurity because if the majority identified them as “just like” Boy George, their safety, livelihoods—and even their lives—could be in danger. Those weren’t irrational fears in the mid-1980s, and in far too many places, it’s still not irrational even now.<br />
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Because pop music is the background to many of our lives, for better or worse, that inevitably means it can drag up unpleasant memories as well as good ones—and sometimes, like with “Karma Chameleon”, it can do both. That’s a pretty powerful thing.<br />
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The 1980s was a pivotal decade in my life for all sorts of reasons, and that’s certainly part of why to this day so much 1980s music still resonates with me. That’s part of what led me to start this series last year: More often than not, a hit song reminds me of all sorts of other things. In this case, the song touched directly on the life I was building for myself 40 years ago, something that's not always true of a Numebr One song from that era, or any other, for that matter.<br />
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“Karma Chameleon” reached Number One in Australia, 1 in Canada (2x Platinum), 1 in New Zealand (Gold), 1 in the UK (Platinum), and Number One on both the USA’s “<i>Billboard</i> Hot 100” and on the <i>Cash Box</i> “Top 100”; the song was also Gold in the USA.<br />
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The album <i>Colour By Numbers</i> reached Number One in Australia, 1 in Canada (Diamond), 1 in New Zealand (Platinum), 1 in the UK (3x Platinum), and 2 on the USA’s “<i>Billboard</i> 200” chart (4x Platinum).<br />
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So, that’s the second of two Number One songs <i>OF</i> 1984, and the third <i>IN</i> 1984. The next post about a 1984 Number One will be in three weeks, on February 25. And knowing myself as I do, by then I'll probably already have forgotten about the OF/IN 1984 trivia. <i>Probably</i>. <br />
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<b>Previously in the “Weekend Diversion – 1984” series:<br /></b>
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<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/weekend-diversion-1984-part-1.html" target="_blank">Weekend Diversion: 1984, Part 1</a></b> – January 21, 2024Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-79171835425482320792024-02-03T16:09:00.003+13:002024-02-14T17:39:08.803+13:00Fiji Trip, Part FiveThis is the penultimate post in this series, so I’ll soon have to find new things to blog about. Such a burden! Today’s post is all about Monday, January 22, our last full day in Fiji. The next morning we left to return home.<br />
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When I posted about this on my Facebook, I wrote:<br />
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Last full day in Fiji! Tomorrow morning we leave the resort to head to the airport in Nadi (pronounced “Nandy”, and rhymes with “Brandy”, the one who’s apparently a fine girl who’d make a good wife for someone whose life isn’t the sea, unless pop music lied to me? 🤔).
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I was in a good mood, and it’s obvious (to me…) because of my lame joke about a 1972 pop song—a song that, by the way, went to Number 10 in Australia, Number One in Canada, 5 in New Zealand, and in the USA it was Number One on both the <i>Billboard</i> “Hot 100” and on <i>Cashbox</i> and was certified Gold. Hm, this just become a crossover post…<br />
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We had nothing planned for that day—apart from relaxing and packing for our trip home. The only thing we did was go up to a shop nine minutes drive from the resort because it sells souvenirs, clothing, and artisans’ work, etc. (and it's where my birthday gift came from, the one I showed in the photo in my <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/travelling-gratitude.html" target="_blank">”Travelling gratitude”</a></b> post. I bought a couple t-shirts. During the afternoon downpour, I just relaxed in my room where it was cooler and far less humid.<br />
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The rain meant that new photos were out of the question, so I shared a few I’d taken earlier that day and a couple from other days. I’m doing that with this post, too.<br />
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First up, a collage of photos I actually took on January 22, just before we headed to the shop that morning (before the rain). The larger photo at the top is looking toward the plants that separated the service road where the resort (and others) were accessed. There was a wall separating the service road from the busier road that connected Nadi and Suva. The photos were all taken just outside the front gateway.<br />
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<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNW3gNiQLx5QCWfwH6ax54Quw0-uoUK0bafO98yBHbkpVHv3tjOaOM0xyWE3exzqkeAwrBTJbYEgktTLQCBKqrtl58ekl14le2Ze78F30Lk0bK14-Dz_PLNOsUenh2WxBnWtuxuMRZoy1IXKkyG5XRAmTYZq8eSRPRqMWTIrnv0ig8k56q08R3/s640/5Fiji-2-2024-Jan-19.png" style="clear: left; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="640" height="412" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNW3gNiQLx5QCWfwH6ax54Quw0-uoUK0bafO98yBHbkpVHv3tjOaOM0xyWE3exzqkeAwrBTJbYEgktTLQCBKqrtl58ekl14le2Ze78F30Lk0bK14-Dz_PLNOsUenh2WxBnWtuxuMRZoy1IXKkyG5XRAmTYZq8eSRPRqMWTIrnv0ig8k56q08R3/w640-h480/5Fiji-2-2024-Jan-19.png" width="550" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;">From our first full day, January 19, when I was on a beach walk near the resort. </td></tr></tbody></table><br />
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<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWZg4QY_oqBF7iD8C6CNpn7nvAXgnI4LuEWdY_tofO4pIIpO4DxCXwy-s0tJHY82T2afxebfh0-5mpNiynk-yN5S3uUeQtLi4uPu6wAp4rfQAMd3DJS_IZtkOqt9etPinhcyKjAi_IZw_AKdhxyOA59mbaOMzPfmrEoO9T-n39AxJZT2qyiIPo/s640/5Fiji-3-2024-Jan-21.png" style="clear: left; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="640" height="412" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWZg4QY_oqBF7iD8C6CNpn7nvAXgnI4LuEWdY_tofO4pIIpO4DxCXwy-s0tJHY82T2afxebfh0-5mpNiynk-yN5S3uUeQtLi4uPu6wAp4rfQAMd3DJS_IZtkOqt9etPinhcyKjAi_IZw_AKdhxyOA59mbaOMzPfmrEoO9T-n39AxJZT2qyiIPo/w640-h480/5Fiji-3-2024-Jan-21.png" width="550" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;">This was on the beach, right by the resort. The back of this sign can be seen on the second and third photos in Part One (link below).</td></tr></tbody></table><br />
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<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHT7dONaIRuqsFplzT_HvS2R7cdtrGgZ8cSw_WMAbsjCL8e-JtJEXGKRMU8qAIx78iz47RHeDM4bySe0W2bgklLzGZp3psXdOkhlKf1nZqtM7Xho08l88m-AfsLp9oF8A2LNIvXx10kVN67IgYKhbppFhL3IA9u5iNAWhEu_dbU8rlNAq1wOhr/s640/5Fiji-4-Plants-2024Jan19.png" style="clear: left; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHT7dONaIRuqsFplzT_HvS2R7cdtrGgZ8cSw_WMAbsjCL8e-JtJEXGKRMU8qAIx78iz47RHeDM4bySe0W2bgklLzGZp3psXdOkhlKf1nZqtM7Xho08l88m-AfsLp9oF8A2LNIvXx10kVN67IgYKhbppFhL3IA9u5iNAWhEu_dbU8rlNAq1wOhr/w640-h640/5Fiji-4-Plants-2024Jan19.png" width="550" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;">These plants were growing near a parking area next the building my room was in. I think the green fruit is bread fruit. I took this January 19, too.</td></tr></tbody></table><br />
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<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSFfXlueGuOQFwRsxHMYAy6IXrlztB7qI3blS7suqUfwurMUTg_UwzxdOPzQtXQYp5sBRla_MzXRBIk7BX4RbtfXpDPYKK9XZ-ux9Qge1N4P3fRmSqYXV68AMdAwuzE3y34XMmF7CluWwYuEabKSUiTkxaRmzixF0zreTfNCMBZzdpsj6jW127/s640/5Fiji-5-Me-2024-01-21.png" style="clear: left; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSFfXlueGuOQFwRsxHMYAy6IXrlztB7qI3blS7suqUfwurMUTg_UwzxdOPzQtXQYp5sBRla_MzXRBIk7BX4RbtfXpDPYKK9XZ-ux9Qge1N4P3fRmSqYXV68AMdAwuzE3y34XMmF7CluWwYuEabKSUiTkxaRmzixF0zreTfNCMBZzdpsj6jW127/w640-h640/5Fiji-5-Me-2024-01-21.png" width="550" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;">This photo was actually a rejected birthday selfie. I addeed on my Facebook, "With both me and the flowers behind me, I was concerned there was too much beauty in one photo—is what I might say if the real reason wasn’t that I didn’t like the black strap of my bag being in the shot (somehow I didn’t notice when I took it).<br />
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Nevertheless, the flowers <i>are</i> pretty (pity about that wanker standing in front of them…). They’re growing against that same wall along the service road…"</td></tr></tbody></table><br />
<br /><div style="text-align: center;">• • • • •</div>
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That's actually it for photos I took of my trip. The final post in this series will include a couple travelling photos, but mainly it'll have my final reflections on my trip.<br />
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<b>Previously:</b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/travelling-gratitude.html" target="_blank">”Travelling gratitude”</a></b> – After I was home.<br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-one.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part One</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-two.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Two</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-three.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Three</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-four.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Four</a></b>Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-81953690120953329582024-02-02T21:01:00.000+13:002024-02-02T21:01:07.554+13:00AmeriNZ Podcast episode 412 is now available<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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AmeriNZ Podcast episode 412, “Returning to normal mode”, is now <b><a href="http://amerinzpodcast.com/?p=2088" target="_blank">available from the podcast website</a></b>. There, you can listen, download or subscribe to the podcast episode, along with any other episode.<br />
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The five most recent episodes of the podcast are listed on the sidebar on the right side of this blog.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-62105022494886222352024-02-02T14:26:00.001+13:002024-02-02T16:29:48.836+13:00The long short monthWelcome to February! It our quadrennial long shortest month with Leap Day at the end. This will be a busier month than usual for me, and in fact it already has been. That’s partly why I’m already a day behind in my blogging schedule.<br />
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I had at least two posts planned for yesterday, but I had other plans for the day and simply didn’t have time to get to it. Then I fell asleep in my my chair watching TV, and didn’t wake up until after midnight. It happens sometimes. So, too, does skipping days for this blog, along with days with multiple posts. Yesterday was the former, today is the latter. Like I said, it’s already been a busy month.<br />
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Yesterday, I was having some of the family around to my place for dinner because some had plans for Friday. I wanted to have them around early in the month because I plan on doing several projects this month, and the house will probably be untidy while I work on them. The thing about it is that the projects—which I’ll talk about at the time I do them—won’t, by themselves, be noticeable to visitors, though I’m hoping that once they’re done, there will be noticeable changes. All of which will make sense when I talk about the projects specifically.<br />
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To get ready for both things, I went out Wednesday evening to save me time on Thursday. It was a hot day on Wednesday, and going in the evening was cooler, and the shops less crowded—wins abounded.<br />
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I first went to a home centre to pick up a few supplies for some small projects I’m doing over the coming week, ones unrelated to the larger projects I have have planned for this month. Then I went to the supermarket on the way home to pick up some things for Thursday night.<br />
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I decided to serve the two vegetarian dishes I make often: The Red Lentil Dahl (which was actually vegan) that I first made <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2022/07/further-meal-experiments.html" target="_blank">back in 2022</a></b> and still make often. The other dish was a Fajita Penne Pasta with Capsicum, which I also got from the YouTuber I got the other recipe from—in the same video, actually. This second dish was vegetarian, not vegan, because it has some cheddar cheese and some milk (though there are vegan substitutes for both, of course). Everyone seemed to like them.<br />
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I’d never shared them with the family, for no reason—I just didn’t, though it was probably because I had the family round so rarely last year that I just didn’t have the chance. At any rate, I wanted family to try them because I like them so much, and, to be honest, to show them that vegetarian (and—gasp!—vegan) dishes can be yummy.<br />
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As I’ve said in the past, I am not vegetarian or vegan—I’d call myself “flexitarian”, if anything. But long ago my doctors told me to severely limit meat consumption, and vegetarian/vegan meals are the perfect way to do that while still having yummy, nutritious food.<br />
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This has been a journey: At first I looked for meat substitutes (which I blogged about at the time), but then I decided that letting the ingredients lead was the best option, and not making meals with imitation meat. Part of the reason for that was that I became concerned about how highly processed most of those meat substitutes are, and I wanted to simplify my cooking, using simpler ingredients, as unprocessed as possible/practical. I’m absolutely not evangelistic about any of this—at all—it’s just my way of dealing with health challenges in an easy way that’s simple, yummy, and affordable, and all of that is why I share it on my blog: Others may find my experiences useful.<br />
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At any rate, I knew the evening would go well, with yummy food and plenty of socialising. And that was supposed to be in a post last night. I guess in a sense, I’m now caught up.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-62893400180555992442024-01-31T23:53:00.001+13:002024-02-01T01:44:18.697+13:00First month overWell, then: Here we are at the end of the first month of 2024. Sheesh, we hardly knew ye, and you scurry to oblivion. A new month looms—a leap month, no less—with all the opportunity that a 29 day month gives us to do—well, whatever it is we do. Or, don’t don’t do—no pressure!<br />
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This post is my 23 rd post for January, which, some may choose to say means I missed my targets for the month. Sure, yes, that’s fair, but: The last month I had more than 23 posts was the 27 I published in January 2019—back in the Before Times, when my life was sane and happy. I can’t and won’t compare this year to those happier times, and yet….<br />
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Compared to to After Times years, 2024 is starting well! The stats for the Januaries since 2019 tell the tale: In January, 2020, I published a staggering 9 posts. Okay, I shifted to Hamilton in that time, and my Internet wasn’t great. Then, in 2021 my output rose to an astounding 13 posts, and 2022 it rose astronomically to 18, and then 2023 to an absolutely astounding 19 posts!<br />
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I’m mocking my previous years to make a point, namely, that my blogging output has suffered for many years—ever since Nigel died, obviously. That means that achieving my old goal is, under the best of circumstances, a big ask. And yet I continue.<br />
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It’s more than fair to note, as, perhaps, <b><a href="https://www.blogger.com/profile/05298172138307632062" target="_blank">some might</a></b>, that I achieved this milestone, such as it is, because of my <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/search/label/Fiji%20Trip%202024" target="_blank">Fiji Trip 2024</a></b> posts. This is true, as far as it goes. However, it’s also likely that had I been in Hamilton all the time of that trip, I’d probably have published as many posts, and very possibly even more—you have <i>NO</i> idea how many posts are languishing somewhere between idea and first draft.<br />
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All of this is really beside the point: I’m long past the point where any measures of output equate to “success”. If I do or do not achieve the “one post per day” average is actually irrelevant for me—even though I do notice. These days, it’s merely about saying what I want to say, and by that measure this blog is still a runaway success.<br />
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Well, apart from the whole avoiding politics thing: I do kind of regret abandoning that entirely. Still, February is a leap month—that’s more time to help me fill my publishing non-goal goals. Or not. New months mean new realities.Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34249799.post-22753079438845032752024-01-31T22:48:00.006+13:002024-02-14T17:34:25.085+13:00Fiji Trip, Part Four<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF_c4Ed2Du-PhvtFDdyt95tRYHfQ01tKkn747Co7WEfdBKGORVrGbXN_Ha6MD8gIrtt3I4eCOzOyZA5JGxVazwR3Y_BaxqzvbopXrKUS_6GVc02iBRH3jPqcKDufdninNJ2jBr63yK7Ex6I-oRUkJS4vFiQDA5-B8ATQwcDVKKHuLpRXvS-aLC/s640/4Fiji-1-Morning-walk-2024-01-21.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="640" height="412" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF_c4Ed2Du-PhvtFDdyt95tRYHfQ01tKkn747Co7WEfdBKGORVrGbXN_Ha6MD8gIrtt3I4eCOzOyZA5JGxVazwR3Y_BaxqzvbopXrKUS_6GVc02iBRH3jPqcKDufdninNJ2jBr63yK7Ex6I-oRUkJS4vFiQDA5-B8ATQwcDVKKHuLpRXvS-aLC/w640-h480/4Fiji-1-Morning-walk-2024-01-21.png" width="550" /></a></div>We’re now up to Sunday, January 21, <b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/the-annual-increasing-number-65.html" target="_blank">a rather significant day</a></b>. It was our penultimate day in Fiji, and it was a quiet one, over all. But that doesn’t mean that nothing happened.<br />
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After breakfast that morning, I walked partway down the beach with some of the others, and then they carried on and I went toward the water to take some photos while the tide was out. Unfortunately, I quickly became overheated, so I went back to nearby family members’ room to cool down before heading back to my room. It was still only 30 (86F), but the humidity was astronomical after all the heavy rain the day before. I decided it was best too cool down, then to go back out later to join the others for lunch poolside. The photo up top shows the vew looking eastish, and here’s the view looking back toward the resort:<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUD_hkM1dXdvEV5HrTMMyKDMLIFVwHxiqZpT-Mcf6vpOLCs2320peCsreNK6NmmLF1mtzpW0BM6O1M95fRfr37GgjQ7F6m1St3v-Ssl8La0gi53fPlfR1LXg_QeFt0uL6G1JRicv1ry7AlzPA-MEcoKPeCiiS4Se49HXsodcP5cVo2mWSvy_-J/s640/4Fiji-2-Morning-walk-2024-01-21.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="640" height="412" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUD_hkM1dXdvEV5HrTMMyKDMLIFVwHxiqZpT-Mcf6vpOLCs2320peCsreNK6NmmLF1mtzpW0BM6O1M95fRfr37GgjQ7F6m1St3v-Ssl8La0gi53fPlfR1LXg_QeFt0uL6G1JRicv1ry7AlzPA-MEcoKPeCiiS4Se49HXsodcP5cVo2mWSvy_-J/w640-h480/4Fiji-2-Morning-walk-2024-01-21.png" width="550" /></a></div>Both of these photos are showing what’s covered in water at high tide, so, where I wouldn’t normally be walking. The closer I got to the water’s edge, the more “squishy” the sand became. I learned to back off when I sank into the sand “too much” (which really meant more than I was comfortable with—in order to keep my shoes clean).<br />
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Be that as it may, I went back to my room to further cool down, and then at lunchtime I headed toward the pool area in the older area to meet the others for lunch. I have to admit, having lunch brought to us poolside was pretty much my idea of luxury (and, as always, it was really nice).<br />
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Here’s a photo I took from my seat, where I had my lunch:<br />
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After that, it was time for my birthday celebration.<br />
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And that was the end of my “significant birthday”, and our penultimate day in Fiji. It was a very good day.<br />
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<b>Previously:</b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/travelling-gratitude.html" target="_blank">”Travelling gratitude”</a></b> – After I was home.<br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-one.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part One</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-two.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Two</a></b><br />
<b><a href="https://amerinz.blogspot.com/2024/01/fiji-trip-part-three.html" target="_blank">Fiji Trip, Part Three</a></b><br />Arthur Schenckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568299067544221996noreply@blogger.com2