tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665Mon, 02 Sep 2024 08:30:31 +0000dating52 weeks to find Himemotionsfederal prison reformmental illnessminoritiesracismrelationships#Django;police brutalityDenzel WashingtonDjango UnchainedFencesLincolnMen StopNeenahOscar GrantSamuel L. JacksonSecond AmendmentU.S. policyWWDDWhat Would Django Doabandonmentaddictionbear armsblack menblack peopleblack womenblack youthcancerchild abductioncodependentsconference on racismconvict soap boxcrazycrystal methdeathdefinition of deviancedomestic violencedrug abuseelderly dementiaforeign menfun fridaygendergun rightsgunshaiti adoptionshe's just not that into youheroinincarcerationinfidelityjusticelovemandatory minimumsmarriagemenmental healthmovie reviewsmurderobamaonline datingovulationparolepcppeople of colorpsychosisracered flagsrosessacrificesentencing disparitysocial deviancesocietal deviancetrue storyvalentines daywarningswelfare statewhite peoplewhite supremacywomenI LOVE ME SOME ME SOME ME! YOU LOVE YOU SOME YOU!!http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )Blogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-7652773613447860890Sat, 22 Apr 2017 01:39:00 +00002017-04-21T18:39:36.704-07:00black menblack womenconvict soap boxdatingDenzel Washingtonfederal prison reformFencesincarcerationinfidelitylovemarriageMen Stopminoritiesmovie reviewsrelationshipsrosessacrifice ROSES By: Demond A. Jackson <!--[if gte vml 1]> <![endif]--><!--[if !vml]--><!--[endif]-->Isn't funny how certain people, places and things can affect our lives? It is also uncanny how those same things a way inspiring us by one means or another. A few days ago, I watched the Oscar nominated film, ‘Fences' directed by Denzel Washington http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2017/04/date-night-friday.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-3668457696383068109Mon, 17 Apr 2017 13:00:00 +00002017-04-17T06:00:37.104-07:00 MARRIAGE IS NOT MY CUP OF TEA When I was a young woman the mandate for dating is that you should date for the soul purpose of finding a suitable partner for marriage. A Wikipedia article describes traditional dating as: a stage of romantic or sexual relationships in humans whereby two or more people meet socially, possibly as&nbsp;friends&nbsp;or with the aim of each assessing the other's http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2017/04/dating-after-40-im-not-in-need-of-saving.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0Langston, OK, USA35.9450505 -97.25531419999998735.89362 -97.335995199999985 35.996481 -97.174633199999988tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-6245762557396444004Sun, 16 Apr 2017 11:24:00 +00002017-04-16T04:25:32.788-07:00 Abenadiva That's Me! http://www.blackpeoplemeet.com/v3/profile?profile=1FF7DC7CD8CFDFAD&amp;back=MyProfile#tab=about A little about me... I am a rare, charming, radical free spirit! I am outgoing as well as a little reserved at the same damn time... I'm an accomplished, prolific writer and the whole planet is my hood. Writing, research and laughing are my passion. http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2017/04/so-i-said-i-was-going-to-date-this.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-1911646152014893999Tue, 07 Mar 2017 11:00:00 +00002017-03-07T05:33:24.053-08:00abandonmentaddictioncodependentscrazycrystal methdrug abuseemotionsheroinmental healthmental illnesspcp DAY ONE = OUTRAGE WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU PLAYING WITH? &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; More than likely the loved one who suffers from addiction doesn’t wake up shivering, shaking and eyeing your TV’s to sell. You’ve have conversations about their behaviors. You’ve warned them to stop. They’ve made promises perhaps. The first day the addict vanishes you http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2017/03/how-vanishing-addicts-affect-families.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0Langston, OK, USA35.9450505 -97.25531419999998735.89362 -97.335995199999985 35.996481 -97.174633199999988tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-6434927447204869214Tue, 18 Jun 2013 18:42:00 +00002013-06-18T11:42:08.262-07:00domestic violencered flagswarnings What’s Love Got to Do with It? It is easy to get stuck in a rut when you are making the transition from a violent or abusive relationship.&nbsp; The mind tends to wander back to the point of when and where the abuse started and how in the world they missed the sign. I remember these times as if it were yesterday.&nbsp; My two new best friends and I were sitting in a common area of a http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2013/06/whats-love-got-to-do-with-it.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-6525356572029692925Wed, 30 Jan 2013 21:23:00 +00002013-01-30T13:23:02.489-08:00The President for all of the people... http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/student-participated-inauguration-festivities-shot-dead-article-1.1251027 http://livewire.talkingpointsmemo.com/entry/carney-obama-is-president-of-all-people Is Obama President to all of the families that have been forever changed by gun violence.&nbsp; I'm sure that it is safe to assume that all Americans regardlesshttp://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2013/01/we-is-people-also.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-9066873120961063098Fri, 25 Jan 2013 20:14:00 +00002013-01-25T13:50:47.955-08:00#Djangobear armsblack peopleblack youthDjango Unchainedgun rightsgunsSamuel L. JacksonSecond AmendmentWhat Would Django Dowhite peopleWWDD<!--[if gte mso 9]> Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE <![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 9]> http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2013/01/wwdd.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-2704013910509845563Wed, 17 Feb 2010 22:28:00 +00002010-02-17T14:32:42.194-08:00child abductionhaiti adoptionswhite supremacyIsn’t it better to give than to receive?http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/02/11/detained-american-mission_n_458475.htmlThink of your mother and father and the tireless effort they put forth in rearing you and molding you into the beautiful creature you’ve become. Many of you may have grandparents aunts and uncles who stood in the gap when there was no parent willing or able to provide what you http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2010/02/isnt-it-better-to-give.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-3244691318925443232Mon, 25 Jan 2010 03:45:00 +00002010-01-24T19:45:45.849-08:00Sometimes I wish I could be alone with my African self. I wish I could go practice my African traditions without interference or observation of others. I wish I had the benefit of my ancestors labor. I wish I had the benefit of ALL of my African intellectual property. I don’t recall any notation of it being signed away but alas conventional wisdom always refers to someone outside of me. I wish myhttp://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2010/01/i-wish-when-metaphors-are-no-good.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-6018045820413753899Thu, 14 Jan 2010 03:55:00 +00002010-01-13T20:07:56.742-08:00elderly dementiamental illnesspsychosisracismThe idea of mental disorders may be born of Western science but people have always tried to define why some people behave in accordance with or against traditional norms. While mental disorders may have both physiological and environmental causes the terminology is only applied to the group of people who appear to experience maladaptive behavior. Most often maladaptive behavior and disability in http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2010/01/glimpse-of-mental-illness-in-time-of.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-7597338766341585940Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:12:00 +00002009-11-29T17:14:59.754-08:00TopicTitle: Black Hearts: How culturally specific programs can benefit African-American women leaving abusive relationshipsResearch Question:How will the implementation of culturally specific domestic violence programs decrease the number of times African-American women return to abusive relationships?Purpose Statement: The purpose of this study is to determine whether or not the http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/11/how-does-domestic-violence-in-black.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-6295902311999009996Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:49:00 +00002009-09-20T13:50:35.918-07:00Recently I was watching a television news program that reported 1 in 5 black women are overweight. On the surface it would seem that black women need to eat less and move more. However, since I am a part of that number I thought to myself, "I am constantly moving more and I never get to eat. It seems like I'm always running around somewhere hungry..." For those examining that statistic from http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/09/enemy-of-state.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-5524433326791855739Sun, 19 Jul 2009 21:28:00 +00002013-01-29T11:20:23.084-08:00definition of deviancegenderminoritiespeople of colorracesocial deviancesocietal deviance How do deviant’s express deviance? No conversation about deviance can occur without discussing the impact that African-American’s and other minorities have on the description of deviant behavior. Most conversations of deviance begin with western input definitions and descriptions. In that light deviant behavior is any behavior deemed against the norm is defined by second hand information http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/07/assignment-do-something-deviant-how.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-7053770335233655100Mon, 29 Jun 2009 01:49:00 +00002013-01-29T11:19:45.882-08:00Father’s Day is often a muted celebration in African American communities because of the intersectionality of public policy, law and economics with race in the black community. The ideological family is often rendered dysfunctional because of the prevailing hegemonic definition of family that often does not include the overarching theme of racism that colors black families. Black families are http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/06/fathers-day.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-348457750645993260Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:03:00 +00002009-06-16T00:19:40.995-07:00conference on racismLincolnobamaU.S. policyIt is so hard to understand how the needs of the majority continue to be pushed aside for the minority. People of color experiencing racism constitutes the majority on this planet. What an unconscionable stance for a world leader to take… But for real he is doing what he was hired to do… Advance the interests of the United States. His study of and infatuation with Lincoln reinforces his stance onhttp://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/04/it-is-so-hard-to-understand-how-needs.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-4892061740157277364Sun, 15 Feb 2009 03:04:00 +00002009-06-15T23:18:47.544-07:0052 weeks to find Himcancerdatingdeathemotionshe's just not that into youmenovulationrelationshipstrue storyvalentines daywomenThis Friday the 13th was an emotional mix. Because, I'm ovulating and ovulating makes me horny and emotional. Horny and emotional is bad for any woman especially a Scorpio. Only a Scorpio would know what that means so if you ain't one don't try. That is insider information. I hate feeling this way on a Friday because it usually means that I have some life altering decision that I have to http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/02/fridays-love.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-85220136338687676Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:19:00 +00002009-02-13T08:19:20.374-08:00As commander-in-chief, President Barack Obama must now oversee our wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. As President, he is also responsible for another war, one that has gone on much longer and been more costly in terms of dollars spent and lives lost -- the war on drugs. read more | digg storyhttp://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/02/editorial-obama-other-war.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-6536199011105909206Fri, 23 Jan 2009 23:04:00 +00002009-01-23T15:04:59.528-08:00Of course there are some Fridays that will not make the cut in the Fun category. So this will show you how the end of these Fridays turned educational so that you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Next week we'll get back to the juicy details. There is a good and bad side to everything. The parties did end. Just weeks ago J and I were talking. We've kept in touch all these years http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/01/fun-on-fridays-do-end.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-7618282944326236815Tue, 13 Jan 2009 18:41:00 +00002009-01-13T10:43:34.195-08:00;police brutalityjusticemurderOscar GrantracismDear friend,On New Year's Eve, Oscar Grant was shot execution-style by a transit police officer in Oakland, California. He was shot in the back while face-down on a subway platform--unarmed and posing no threat.Twelve days later--despite several videos showing exactly what happened--the officer who killed Grant hasn't been arrested, charged, or even questioned. He quit the force and has refused http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/01/httpwwwcolorofchangeorgoscarid2020.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-1445392205890136312Fri, 09 Jan 2009 03:36:00 +00002009-01-09T10:04:44.927-08:00    I thought it fitting to begin the New Year with some clarification. When I initially started this blog it was more my intent to talk about some of the misconceptions we have with people who lead alternative lifestyles. My time partying with my girls in Atlanta was the most fun and enlightening experience in my life. Of course the birth of children and marriages… in my case a divorce rank http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/01/proceed-with-caution.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-8020801145624817115Fri, 02 Jan 2009 18:01:00 +00002009-01-02T10:11:13.188-08:0052 weeks to find Himdatingforeign menfun fridayNeenahonline datingWow... It may get her more dates but I doubt if it will land her a husband.  Personally as the economy dwindles worldwide I have noticed a dramatic increase in foreigners wanting to establish long distance love affairs with American women. I am not even soliciting a relationship with anyone!  I constantly have men from Nigeria, UK, Puerto Rico, Dominican Republic and Haiti Jumping out of my inboxhttp://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2009/01/happy-new-year.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-8843731443825137789Wed, 31 Dec 2008 05:57:00 +00002008-12-30T22:02:27.935-08:00It is time to start supporting those who are taking us in the direction we want this country to go...  No one deserves long prison sentences that increases recidivism...  Long prison sentences for non-violent offenders who are released with no real marketable skills is even not good enough... America has the money to make reparation to the black community.  Demand that your congressman supports http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2008/12/criminal-justice-reform.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-7792478485535442532Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:46:00 +00002008-12-26T10:57:15.829-08:00MAKE SURE TO PARTICIPATE IN THE POLLS THEY ARE ANONYMOUS!  AND SUBMIT IDEAS FOR NEW ONES... PARTICIPATE SPRREAD THE WORD... ENJOY There was a group of 4 of us ready to release our stresses that Friday.  My girls were Y and J.  Carmella put in on it too.  J and I came back from “the Spot” blushing as usual and let me tell you if you don’t come back blushing from the spot you again have missed a http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2008/12/council-meeting.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-1837288519535180373Thu, 25 Dec 2008 16:07:00 +00002008-12-25T08:13:31.244-08:00I have spent 39 Christmases free... And with my family.... Let's take a second to pause and think of our friends and family locked up... If you are black more than likely you know someone who falls in this category. 1 in 9 black men are more likely to have this Christmas rather than the one we are enjoying...If you have spent a Christmas locked up... Stop trying to gloss over it... Support a http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2008/12/support-fedcure.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8080966244770624665.post-2782164698588469465Fri, 19 Dec 2008 17:15:00 +00002008-12-19T09:16:39.081-08:00I have always been into a certain level of experimentation. This day was no different. I was in a down and out place… But that is another blog and another time. I was finally FREE and I made these great new girlfriends. We’d become instant friends in this struggle we were in. Three Divas. One smoked weed, that’s me always on the fringes but never plunging in. J was a dancer and I always http://abenadiva.blogspot.com/2008/12/i-have-always-been-into-certain-level.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Tosha Anonymous )0